BONUS The Friday Show - Cracking the Code

Episode 733792 • Released June 13, 2025 • Speakers not detected

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00:00:00I got to tell you the most Mark thing though is right after he read it, you know, then we've gone back and forth about the piece and he goes, I feel like I should get that out there somehow.
00:00:14I literally, all I wrote back was LOL somehow.
00:00:35Hey, Chris.
00:00:36Hello, Brendan.
00:00:37I got an interesting comment here that I thought you should know about.
00:00:42Bill wrote in to us and said, my sister-in-law asked if I had heard about this show, Stick, from the people who brought you Ted Lasso.
00:00:51She literally said this.
00:00:54This ploy worked on her.
00:00:57That's why they do it, I'm guessing.
00:01:00I saw the most egregious one I've ever seen.
00:01:04Worse than from the people from this movie you also like?
00:01:11Yes, it was.
00:01:12It was way worse than that.
00:01:13Oh, I got to hear this.
00:01:15It was a little pop-up ad I'm sure served to me because of my interest of my Googling and websites I go to.
00:01:25It was an ad for a movie called Queen of the Ring.
00:01:30which is a biopic about Mildred Burke, who is one of the first, really the first recognized female wrestlers, like professional wrestlers, not an Olympic amateur wrestler.
00:01:43But like, you know, what you see on wrestling on TV, Mildred Burke is kind of recognized as the female forerunner of all of it.
00:01:52And they made a movie about her.
00:01:54You know, it seems small indie film.
00:01:57The director of this film is Ash Avildsen.
00:02:02And he is related to... His name might sound familiar to you because his father is John D. Avildsen, who was the director of Rocky and The Karate Kid.
00:02:15Oh, okay.
00:02:18And many other films.
00:02:19He was an established Hollywood director.
00:02:22So this ad said...
00:02:25From the family that brought you Rocky and the Karate Kid.
00:02:32Oh my God.
00:02:33From the semen.
00:02:38I just want like, do you know how many things are brought to you by families that are bad?
00:02:44Like, it's like, there's a whole metaphor about like, you know, the bad seed and stuff.
00:02:50Like just because it's from the same family, it doesn't mean it's going to be anything like the thing you once liked.
00:02:56Tell me about it.
00:02:57Oh my God.
00:02:58We're going to have Andrew Cuomo as a mayor here.
00:03:00That's definitely not like the one I used to like.
00:03:06Oh man.
00:03:06That is wild that they would promote it that way.
00:03:10I mean, how, how did they land on that?
00:03:13The marketing team are just like, I don't know, this guy's dad made all these great movies.
00:03:18But it's beyond these great movies.
00:03:20It's like, we need people to know this is like Rocky and the Karate Kid.
00:03:26Right, on that same level.
00:03:27It's a sports movie with Uplift, right?
00:03:30Underdog Story.
00:03:32These movies are perfect.
00:03:35And this kid who, as far as I can tell...
00:03:39you know, not made a ton of movies or a ton of anything, uh, is related to the, like they, they probably thought this is gold.
00:03:49Like he is connected to Rocky and the karate kid.
00:03:54How do we say that?
00:03:56How do we explicitly underscore that?
00:03:58Oh, right.
00:03:59From the family that brought you.
00:04:01Like they sit around the fire and they craft these like sweaters.
00:04:08I wonder if this is what Jason Reitman went through with his Ghostbusters.
00:04:14It's like the marketing team was like, we got it.
00:04:17His dad made the first one.
00:04:19So we can just say it's in the family, you know?
00:04:22I don't remember.
00:04:24Did they ever, I think because he was an established enough name, they were just like from director Jason Reitman.
00:04:30And like next to that, there was like the subconscious, like Jason Reitman.
00:04:38Right.
00:04:38But I wonder in his earlier movies, like up in the air, like I wonder if that movie used like from the family.
00:04:45No, no, I guarantee you it never did because I would have lost my mind.
00:04:54Oh, geez.
00:04:55So yes, Bill, uh, that is, uh, that is very interesting that, that, uh, that, that ploy worked.
00:05:01Um, I, I gotta start doing that like for WTF.
00:05:05Like we gotta figure out like connections to it.
00:05:08It's like, it's like, uh, like if there's an episode that comes out that people, you know, has maybe as somebody that people don't know, I should advertise it as like from the show that had Barack Obama as a guest.
00:05:22You should totally do that.
00:05:24I'm shocked.
00:05:27If you had a marketing team, they would have 100% of LinkedIn.
00:05:30From the interviews that brought you the two-parter with Lorne Michaels.
00:05:36Gallagher and Robin Williams comes.
00:05:40Michael Bibiglia again.
00:05:45By the way, there is a now an era of your show where it is post or pre-announcement that you're ending the show and...
00:05:56And post-announcement that you're ending the show, right?
00:06:01And it's funny.
00:06:02I was listening to Mike Bibiglia and I was thinking as soon as I pressed play, I was like, you know what?
00:06:09I bet Mark doesn't tell him that he's going to end the show.
00:06:14Well, it was recorded before we made the announcement.
00:06:18So, you know, he could, like I said last week, there were people who could have been the guest that we put on that day.
00:06:27He was one of them, but it wasn't.
00:06:29We wound up being Mulaney.
00:06:31So, yes, he just didn't tell him.
00:06:33There are going to be, man, there are a few.
00:06:35Let me count right here on our list.
00:06:37One, two, three, four, five.
00:06:43I got five interviews in the can still that happened before we made the announcement publicly.
00:06:50And so those are people who didn't know.
00:06:53And that's going to be going up all the way through July.
00:06:56So there will be people who...
00:06:58And you won't really necessarily know it because there's no reason to.
00:07:02But they will have been talking to Mark without knowing that the show was ending.
00:07:06And then, you know, I don't know.
00:07:07Like, there's other people who are on.
00:07:09Like, I don't know that Mark and Alexander Skarsgård had any conversation about, like, hey, this is the end of my show or something.
00:07:15Right.
00:07:16But Mike Bibiglia, he's been part of the show, right?
00:07:19Like, they have had an ongoing experience.
00:07:21Well, to be clear, if it had happened, probably, you know, if he had talked to Mike after talking to John and it being public.
00:07:31Right.
00:07:32Of course, they would have talked about it.
00:07:33I just think, you know, Mark was in a situation where he wanted as few people to know as possible before we made the announcement.
00:07:39And I will say, I feel like they got a little bit of closure.
00:07:44I mean, there's not going to always, you know, it's not going to be fully closure.
00:07:47Like, it's just like a, it's, I related to a sibling rivalry in a way.
00:07:53Like you're calling it closure.
00:07:55I'm like, I've been to this rodeo before.
00:07:58Like I've heard the same spiel.
00:08:00It's a, it's a, it's a dynamic that they have.
00:08:03And I, I personally love their dynamic.
00:08:06Yeah, well, you know, the thing is, though, I always came down when Mark was reacting the way he was reacting back in, like, you know, the early days of the show or before we were even doing the podcast, you know, when he kind of had resentment for Mike doing that show, you know, upstairs versus downstairs, that thing.
00:08:25And I, you know, we've talked about this on this show before that I was like, I think this guy just likes you and he wants you to, you know, validate him in that way.
00:08:35I don't know.
00:08:35This was the first time I listened to it and I kind of like came down more on Mark's side.
00:08:39Oh yeah?
00:08:41Like I felt like Mike was, is still being an operator and you know, I don't know, man.
00:08:49Sometimes it's just like one little thing and this was all the way at the end.
00:08:54And I really did not like the last thing Mike said.
00:08:58I thought it reflected poorly on him.
00:09:01And remind us, what is the last thing that he said?
00:09:04They were talking about their, it was like, we were home free, show ending.
00:09:10Yeah, wrap it up.
00:09:10I don't know, maybe like I kind of had a little bit in me, like the Mike who was on the phone with Mark.
00:09:17you know, who was like, don't worry, you know, I get you, whatever.
00:09:20And just kind of seemed to understand whatever like Mark's resentments toward him are and how it manifests itself.
00:09:28And then he kind of was like calling him out on it in the episode.
00:09:32And I felt that was like deliberate, like, but part of me is like, okay, I guess maybe you earn that a little bit.
00:09:38Like if Mark's going to be a dick, you kind of earn some ability to like, it's a receipt, right?
00:09:44You get a receipt.
00:09:46But I don't know.
00:09:47It just like was, there was something about it that like kind of rubbed me the wrong way.
00:09:50Like I'm like, I don't know.
00:09:52Didn't you just say to him on the phone a couple of weeks ago, like, don't worry, it's all fine.
00:09:55We'll have to talk about it.
00:09:57Yeah, that's true.
00:09:58So they were coming up and I'm, so I'm already like noticing that.
00:10:02And then they're like almost out the door.
00:10:05And Mark says that thing about we're getting older and our audiences that kind of reflect who we are or whatever.
00:10:10And Mike says...
00:10:12Oh yeah.
00:10:13It's like when I'm walking around in Brooklyn and some pear shaped middle aged ogre comes up to me and says, Hey man, I just, I want you to know, I really relate to the stuff you're saying.
00:10:25And I'm like, Oh man, is this, is this what I look like?
00:10:29On the inside.
00:10:30no no mark said on the inside mark made the i found that's why i didn't like it i was like what kind of bullshit is this it was just sounded so superficial yeah and like i don't know it didn't it did not paint him in a good light in in my mind and it was just to me then reinforced what i had been kind of hearing earlier i'm like this guy really is like you know very concerned about like
00:11:00Coming out on top, being a winner, you know, having the edge on things.
00:11:06And like if that if a fan coming up to you and you judge their physical appearance as something negative to you is where your head goes on that.
00:11:16I don't know, man.
00:11:17That's a little dicey for me.
00:11:20I mean, for me, I thought it was interesting that Ira Glass was like, wow, you're a completely different guy on stage than you are in real life.
00:11:28In real life, you're really like, you know.
00:11:31Intense.
00:11:31Yeah, intense.
00:11:33And so it seems like he's putting on a little show.
00:11:37Which is what Mark was always saying.
00:11:39was mark's problem with the guy from jump was he's like you're selling this character and you're hiding yourself right and i don't like it and it's like i've always busted mark's balls about it i've always been like oh man you're so resentful of this guy's success you can't even see that he likes you whatever and i don't know this was like the first time where i'm like i don't know mark might have been right about this one yeah you know i'm i'm not like boy
00:12:04That Mike Birbiglia, what an asshole.
00:12:06But I am kind of like, I don't know that this is as one-sided a tension as it has previously been presented.
00:12:16Yeah, yeah.
00:12:17I will say, though, this was a great episode to have for Father's Day week.
00:12:22You know, this was...
00:12:24This is a very good Father's Day.
00:12:27If you're on the fence, if you're driving somewhere to see your dad, you should totally put on that episode because I feel like it's a very good Father's Day episode to listen to.
00:12:38Well, it's definitely a very good Father's Day episode if you have particular issues with your father.
00:12:43Yes, I'm just assuming we all do.
00:12:46I know you don't, but yes, some of us do.
00:12:49I know, I was thinking about that when Mark was talking about Nick Kroll and how he had to unfollow him.
00:12:54And I was like, man, I'm glad I don't talk about my family much around Mark or show him pictures or videos of my childhood or something.
00:13:03He'd be so angry.
00:13:04Dude, you know, there was at the end of the bonus episode you did with Mark where you guys talk about ending the show where you mention like you see like a pattern with people who have built themselves versus your upbringing.
00:13:21And like part of me is just like, is he talking about me?
00:13:24Yeah, I probably am.
00:13:27And I'm talking about almost everyone.
00:13:30I shouldn't say almost everyone, but I think it's a very simple equation.
00:13:36Did your parents instill self-esteem in you?
00:13:39And it really boils down to something as simple as that.
00:13:42And then move it on the fulcrum of that.
00:13:46If it's more or less self-esteem, you'll find yourself behind the eight ball farther as you grow up.
00:13:54Because...
00:13:55Like, that's the key.
00:13:57The key is to, like, just feel like you have support.
00:14:01You have somebody who gave you the keys to know, like, how to get through the next door.
00:14:08And if you had to do that all yourself, what...
00:14:13possible assurance would you have as a person like with your brain forming that you could get through the world and be okay if somebody else wasn't telling you you can do this you're good enough right yeah if they didn't tell you that you're you're you're at a disadvantage yeah 100 and uh yeah i felt that though
00:14:33I will say I also felt the bonus episode with all the dad talk to be a little too much too soon in a weird way.
00:14:45Like I felt like – I was like, oh, yeah, I forgot.
00:14:48You know –
00:14:49You know, these episodes, they sort of ramp up.
00:14:52You don't start at this level of complete honesty and vulnerability.
00:14:57So to you to have cherry picked these dad moments and they're so personal and so, so like naked.
00:15:06Yeah, not a single one of those came from like the first 10 minutes of an episode.
00:15:10No, of course not.
00:15:11It was just, oh my God, this feels awkward in a weird way.
00:15:15Like I opened the door and these two were having a conversation that I should not be listening to at this point, you know?
00:15:22Because I just want to talk about like the Mets or something.
00:15:24So yeah.
00:15:25But I thought I was great, obviously.
00:15:28All the dad stuff that you picked out, which was really fun.
00:15:32By the way, I love that Matt Damon's kid treats him like the way Jimmy Kimmel treats him.
00:15:39Exactly.
00:15:42I love that he has identified.
00:15:44He's like, yeah, now I'm like the guy who has to respond to the bully.
00:15:49Pretend it doesn't hurt his feelings.
00:15:52It's so funny though.
00:15:54Cause like I, it's, it's interesting.
00:15:56Like I was going back through our archives and it's like, yeah, there's not a ton of, like, it's just not, it's something that you're going to hear in a little bit, you know, in terms of the thing that I'm going to play on this episode, but that like Mark's style of monologuing and conversation is not what is traditionally noted as like masculine talk, right?
00:16:17Like there's, and, and, and someone with a better,
00:16:21perception of that than me is going to explain that in just a few minutes.
00:16:26But what I mean by that in terms of these things is like, I noticed like when going through the archives, it's like, there aren't a ton of fathers.
00:16:35I don't mean people talking about their fathers.
00:16:38There's plenty of that.
00:16:39And I didn't want the bonus episode to be that.
00:16:41I wanted it like the mother's one to be people talking about their experience with parenthood, right?
00:16:49Being a mom or being a dad.
00:16:50And there's just not a ton of guys who talk about being a dad in a kind of open, detailed, vulnerable way.
00:17:03You know, it's a lot of like, yeah, I got my kids.
00:17:04They're great.
00:17:05They're great.
00:17:06Like, that's what you hear most of the time.
00:17:07And it's interesting.
00:17:09It's interesting that it's not the kind of default setting for a guy to be like, oh, well, let me tell you about all the, you know, very delicate issues of being a dad.
00:17:19Right.
00:17:19Right.
00:17:19Right.
00:17:20And like, I think that's one of the things that your listeners are realizing that are going to be missing.
00:17:25Like they're going to miss honest and open conversations about topics that are just normally glossed over in other interviews.
00:17:36All right, so I do want to share a story about my dad.
00:17:42And I alluded to it on a previous episode with you, where I told you about how I got my dog.
00:17:50My dad came home from work one day with our dog.
00:17:54And I just think, I was thinking about it this week because of these episodes.
00:18:00And I was just thinking...
00:18:02man, something's up with this story.
00:18:04So the story is, is that, first of all, my dad is a New York City bus driver, you know, just like, you know, Ralph Cramden was.
00:18:16I grew up...
00:18:17you know, going, instead of going to a babysitter, I would get on his bus and just drive with him, you know, every, you know, most days during the summer.
00:18:26So I was like Calodro in, uh, in, in a Bronx tale.
00:18:29Like that was literally the, my childhood.
00:18:32So, uh, except without the mafia stuff, uh, too much anyway.
00:18:36So anyway, one day my dad is apparently working.
00:18:40You know, he is working.
00:18:41And he parks his bus at the Staten Island Ferry.
00:18:45And they have like this little turret at the Staten Island Ferry where the bus drivers go to hang out.
00:18:51I've been up there.
00:18:52It's kind of cool.
00:18:53It's like something out of Star Wars.
00:18:54But anyway, he apparently tells us that there was this dog just wandering around the ferry.
00:19:04And he found the dog and then tied the dog up on his bus, made a couple more rounds with the dog on the bus, just with the dog just next to him on the bus in the, what is it, the 80s at this point in New York City?
00:19:23And yeah, that's our dog, our dog Barron.
00:19:26By the way, Baron was the name of Superman's dog in Superman 1.
00:19:30I note that because my mom gave Baron the name, but I just always thought that was fun.
00:19:40And I'm also in Superman mode at this point.
00:19:43I already have my Superman tickets.
00:19:47Do you have your Superman tickets?
00:19:49No, I do not.
00:19:50God damn it, man.
00:19:50You got to get your Superman tickets.
00:19:52But anyway, I'm ready for that.
00:19:54I'm listening to the blank check guys talk about Superman.
00:19:58I am like all in on Superman.
00:20:00It's like George Costanza waiting in line for soup.
00:20:04I'm in Superman mode now.
00:20:06Like now until the end.
00:20:07Anyway, so my dad comes home with this dog and like...
00:20:11I'm like, at the time, I'm like just elated because I have this collie, this dog that looks like Lassie.
00:20:17Another reason why I loved Lassie growing up.
00:20:20And like this dog is like this perfect, well-mannered dog.
00:20:26There's no chance that this dog, this perfectly mild-mannered dog, is just roaming around the Staten Island Ferry without an owner, right?
00:20:37And I am oblivious to this because I am in the elation of having this beautiful dog in my life.
00:20:44But in the back of my head has always been like, wait, so can you tell me that story again?
00:20:50Because...
00:20:51this isn't, this isn't adding up.
00:20:54Like you just found this dog.
00:20:56Like I actually hope that like years later and like maybe if I ever talked to my dad again, he could tell me that, Oh, actually that was just a bullshit story.
00:21:05I told you when you were a kid, we actually found, you know, we, we bought him from like a kennel or something, you know?
00:21:11Cause like this story, it seems real bad because I feel like my dad stole a dog from someone and
00:21:19And they then no longer had a dog.
00:21:23And my family had this stolen dog for years.
00:21:26And, like, I just can't shake it.
00:21:28Isn't that fucking, like, right?
00:21:30Like, I'm not crazy to think that that dog was probably stolen, right?
00:21:34I mean, I think you'd be crazy to not think it.
00:21:38So, so yeah, that's, that's like my dad's story about this dog, you know, coming into my life.
00:21:45And like, look, my dad's a weird dude.
00:21:47He's does weird things.
00:21:49He's like a weird, like bit of a liar, you know, just a wee bit of a liar.
00:21:54And like,
00:21:55I just, I wouldn't have put it past him that he either stole the dog or giving him the opportunity to be like, he actually just lied to me about finding this dog as this magical story.
00:22:08And actually, he, you know, got the dog from like a kennel, you know?
00:22:12So, yeah, that's my dog story.
00:22:16Your dog story.
00:22:17I like how you call it your dog story.
00:22:19I think that's your dad's story.
00:22:22Yeah, I guess so.
00:22:23So, yeah, my dad, I'll send him a happy day, a happy Father's Day text.
00:22:27You know, that's like more than I normally do for him.
00:22:30So I think that that's good.
00:22:32Well, I do think that, you know, it's kind of one of the things about WTF that, you know, we...
00:22:37over the years have provided an ability for people like yourself to hear stories where they're like, Oh, thank God other people have situations like this where it's, it's like, you know, look, I don't think I'm the kind of person who goes around and just tells everybody I had a great childhood.
00:22:55It was awesome because like, well,
00:22:56I had the problems that anyone has, but I don't have like a negative perception of my childhood.
00:23:02And I think that most people probably think that's the norm, right?
00:23:07Like people, you know, had a good childhood, they had good parents.
00:23:12I'm the weirdo.
00:23:13I didn't.
00:23:14Right.
00:23:15And one of the legacies, I hope, of the show is that it allowed people to realize they weren't alone on that front, on many fronts, right?
00:23:27It could be anything.
00:23:28But if that's it, if that's one of them, weird stuff about parents and your upbringing, then great.
00:23:35That's one of the things I'm glad we accomplished.
00:23:39Oh, man.
00:23:39And just Mark, the way Mark's able to...
00:23:43Talk about the things that are on people's minds and they just don't realize it is second to none.
00:23:50And I'm going to miss that, man.
00:23:51I'm going to miss it.
00:23:52Well, I said last week, I don't want, you know, the coming weeks to be like a eulogy about the show.
00:23:59And I, you know, I stand by that.
00:24:00However, something did come up this week.
00:24:04That I feel like it absolutely changed my whole week.
00:24:09It changed like everything I had been, you know, kind of mentally adjusting to in terms of the end of the show and made me have to like really sit back and take a breather and go like, holy crap, like, wow, that...
00:24:20That really is something.
00:24:22And it was a piece of writing.
00:24:23It was something Mark identified this.
00:24:25He talked about it on Thursday's show in the monologue.
00:24:28And this was an article on the Defector website.
00:24:32And look, if you haven't ever been to Defector, you might know it formerly as with most of the staff there as writers from Deadspin and some of them from Gawker.
00:24:43I would call them the good Gawker writers, not the ones who destroyed the First Amendment by getting sued by Hulk Hogan.
00:24:50Uh, but, but, uh, but some great writers and savvy, smart people, uh, good critics, cultural, uh, astute people.
00:24:59And, uh, they started this website that's, um, that's worker owned called defector.
00:25:04And, uh, you know, you can get a subscription to it, or you can do kind of like just sign in and, uh, sign up for their email letter, uh, so that you can get some articles.
00:25:14You can, you know, pay or not pay.
00:25:16That's like basically their, their, the way it's set up.
00:25:19And, uh, and, uh,
00:25:20It just, you know, there's been a there's been a lot of pieces coming my way that have been written about the show since we made our announcement.
00:25:28But this one is called There Will Never Be Another WTF with Marc Maron.
00:25:33OK, that's good enough to get me to click on it.
00:25:35And it was written by Diana Moskovitz.
00:25:38Seen her byline with a lot of stuff on Deadspin.
00:25:41I believe she used to work for the Miami Herald.
00:25:44And she has a book coming out soon called The Woman Who Stole Fire, which is about...
00:25:51basically the, the, the first woman who participated in the, the modern Olympics.
00:25:58And, and so she's a great writer.
00:26:00She's got a pedigree.
00:26:02She, you know, someone that if you read her stuff, you'd like trust it as being good.
00:26:08I even even with all of that being said, I was not prepared for the piece that she wrote.
00:26:15As I've said to basically anyone that I spoke to, she cracked the code.
00:26:22Like she tapped into the secret show.
00:26:27Like to me, there's always been a show that no one else gets to see.
00:26:33Like basically like in a weird way, what we've kind of illuminated here on these Fridays.
00:26:39Right.
00:26:40Like we talk a little bit about the process of the show and somewhat about like my philosophy around that.
00:26:47But like.
00:26:48To me, there's a whole kind of mental hidden show that I personally deliberately keep from view because I think part of what makes the show work and makes it successful is that you just think there's a guy in his garage who turned the mics on and you heard this thing come out, right?
00:27:04Your fly on the wall moment.
00:27:07And she just picked up on everything that I've always been putting down.
00:27:12And Mark as well.
00:27:13And also for Mark, picked up on things that he himself wasn't even aware of that he was doing.
00:27:18Mm-hmm.
00:27:18And I always knew so much of what she was saying, but I also knew that it had to go unsaid.
00:27:29And, you know, it's like we couldn't just come out and say like, hey, guess what, guys?
00:27:33You know that intro part that some of you think is so skippable?
00:27:36It's actually the entire reason that this thing has been going for a decade plus and why it's still popular.
00:27:43Like, yeah.
00:27:44I just to me, it was like, no, I just don't ever say anything.
00:27:47Like, if anybody ever asked me in an interview or something like, oh, well, you guys still do that long monologue.
00:27:52You ever think about getting rid of that?
00:27:53I'd always be like, no, it's like, you know, our shows like the circus, like some people like the tightrope walker.
00:27:58Some people like the lion tamer.
00:28:00You just you pick what you want from it.
00:28:01You get move on from there.
00:28:03But like I fucking knew the important part was the monologue.
00:28:06Right.
00:28:06I just knew that.
00:28:08And I knew it in my bones and nobody could tell me differently, but it wasn't just something that either of us were going to come out and say, but man, Diana got it.
00:28:19And my, I'm sitting here with this thing this week, just kind of floored by it.
00:28:25And I, I thought like, you know,
00:28:27I want people to read this thing.
00:28:30Obviously, I think it's a great thing for people to get to know.
00:28:33And I was going to talk about it here with you.
00:28:35And I'm like, what am I going to do?
00:28:37I'm going to read.
00:28:38It's like literally reading your own press clippings.
00:28:40Right.
00:28:41You know?
00:28:42So I don't know.
00:28:43I'm like, I'm a fucking producer.
00:28:46I contacted Diana Moskovitz.
00:28:48I said, I don't know if you do this kind of thing, but will you read your piece on our air?
00:28:54Oh my God.
00:28:54She said, absolutely.
00:28:55So this doesn't exist on the Defector website.
00:28:59They don't have audio recordings of their pieces, but much like a book on tape or whatever, Audible original, I got Diana to record her piece.
00:29:11And and that's what we'll do for the rest of the show here.
00:29:13I want you to hear it.
00:29:14It's a it's a lengthy piece.
00:29:16I do encourage you to go read it.
00:29:17You could go read it right along with this.
00:29:19But but for those of you who have not read it or if you don't have the time to sit down and read it, here it is for you right now.
00:29:27This is Diana Moskovitz reading her piece that you can find on the homepage of Defector dot com right now.
00:29:34And this was a real pleasure.
00:29:36I'm so happy that we were able to do this.
00:29:46There will never be another WTF with Marc Maron by Diana Moskovitz.
00:29:52I heard Marc Maron announce he was ending his podcast the way that I imagined he'd have wanted me to, while walking through my neighborhood in Los Angeles through wired headphones just a little too hopped up on caffeine.
00:30:04A younger version of Maron would have given an oh come on to my caffeine source, a matcha latte, as opposed to Maron's preference, the strongest coffee possible.
00:30:14But long-time listeners know Marin also went through a T-phase, episode 949, so I like to think that the current version of Marin would let it slide.
00:30:23I first listened to WTF with Marc Marin in October of 2010, episode 117, because I heard this American Life host, Ira Glass, say that he had appeared on it.
00:30:33I was immediately hooked.
00:30:34I had simply never heard an interview like that one, with a host so engaged and a guest so honestly and openly themselves.
00:30:42I binged as many as I could the following weekend while cleaning my apartment and told my long-distance boyfriend he had to start listening too.
00:30:48I got caught up soon enough, with a 23-mile commute between my office and my home and
00:30:54and a newspaper job that required a lot of driving on top of that, I had plenty of time to listen.
00:30:59And in the early years of podcasting, there were far fewer options, with many of those being true radio shows like Fresh Air, Radiolab, and the aforementioned This American Life that had been posted online, maybe or not necessarily with a little bit of a re-edit for the web.
00:31:15Fifteen years later, WTF is the one podcast that I've never quit.
00:31:20I've never missed an episode, though at times I have fallen behind.
00:31:23Okay, fine, I don't always listen to the bonus episodes.
00:31:26I apologize to producer Brendan McDonald for that.
00:31:29I've even seen Marin, a veteran stand-up comic with decades of success, perform multiple times live.
00:31:35Once, he dropped in at the comedy store, just the store to us what the fuckers, to work out some stuff on the same night a friend happened to be going up too.
00:31:43Then I can tell you all these things about Maren.
00:31:45The name of his producer, his go-to place to work out his stand-up, his recent coffee grinder ordeal, the details of a household saga involving his refrigerator.
00:31:53This is covered in many episodes, but let's call it 1469 to choose one.
00:31:59is as key to WTF's success as any other detail that will be trotted out in the coming months as the podcast enters what figures to be a lengthy and deserved farewell tour.
00:32:09The headline will be that WTF set the template for modern interview podcasts, helped pave the way for monetization, helped turn the medium into a routine stop on the entertainment industry's publicity circuit, and later the political campaign circuit, and opened up the door for pretty much every single comedian-hosted podcast that followed.
00:32:27All of that is true.
00:32:29But that is not why WTF outlasted and outperformed nearly every podcast from its era.
00:32:35It's because, as McDonald realized when he worked with Marin on progressive talk radio at Air America, Marin is so spectacularly good at commanding an audience on a mic and so completely fearless and bearing his every insecurity.
00:32:47And it is especially because that openness makes whoever's opposite of him so comfortable bearing their own in turn.
00:32:54Even as the show grew, it stayed true to its purpose.
00:32:58Real conversations after real monologue to start the show.
00:33:02And though it evolved, it never lost sight of its core principles.
00:33:05The show stayed independent, always came out twice a week, and didn't shy away from its success or run away from its failures.
00:33:12It was, from start to finish, a deeply human show.
00:33:16That's just one reason why there probably won't be another show like WTF again.
00:33:21To my mind, nothing illustrates the alchemy of WTF like my favorite two episodes, ones that always leave me in tears.
00:33:29Sir Ian McKellen, episode 621, and weeks later, Sir Patrick Stewart, episode 638.
00:33:35The best way to listen to them is back-to-back.
00:33:39With McKellen, Maren has one type of classic WTF talk.
00:33:43He opens up asking McKellen, a little forcefully, to help him understand this Shakespeare guy.
00:33:48McKellen, unquestionably one of the greatest Shakespearean actors in modern history, happily obliges, after the two have a good laugh about the desk holding the same cup as used by recent guest President Barack Obama, episode 613.
00:34:03There is also a time capsule quality element to this episode, which opens with Maren suggesting listeners also check out McKellen's interview on the Nerdist podcast, a reminder of a time when podcasting was a much smaller community of independent productions, and not bound to simply plug whatever was in their own network.
00:34:19At one point, Maren does an entire monologue about how it's cool that there are different podcasts that all have different styles, so you can see different sides of the same interviewee.
00:34:27It's like a broadcast from another dimension.
00:34:30But back to the interview.
00:34:31McKellen goes on to explain not just Shakespeare, but a philosophy of life that he sees as embedded in the Bard's work.
00:34:39"'All the world's a stage, and all the men and women merely players.
00:34:42They have their exits and their entrances, and one man in his time plays many parts.'"
00:34:48It's this, McKellen says, the way we put on clothes, you could say our costumes, every day, and give ourselves titles at work, you could say character names, and go through our expected motions, you could say the script, that separates us from animals, who do none of that.
00:35:04They simply are what they are, but humans perform for ourselves and for each other, and it is that performance that makes us different.
00:35:12We're not even halfway through the episode at this point.
00:35:15They go on, Maren and McKellen talking about getting older, about holding grudges, about how holding grudges gets harder as you age, because you realize how stupid they were.
00:35:25As McKellen notes, acting is very easy in comparison to life.
00:35:30It is then that McKellen tells the story of how he came out as gay at age 48.
00:35:35At the time, in 1988, the British government was considering a bill that would have banned books, film, and art that had gay themes.
00:35:42The justification was that such works promoted homosexuality merely through their existence.
00:35:49McKellen fought against the proposed law and appeared on a BBC radio show to speak out against it, while also nearing the end of his one-man show, Acting Shakespeare.
00:35:58When asked by the host if he would like to see their proposal disappear altogether, McKellen replied, "...oh yes, I certainly would.
00:36:06Yes, I think it's offensive to anyone who is, like myself, homosexual, apart from the whole business of what can or cannot be taught to children."
00:36:15It's a beautiful story, one of fear and shame, followed by redemption and blossoming.
00:36:20Maren then compels McKellen to tell several more about being knighted, about making the Lord of the Rings films.
00:36:26McKellen quips that he would never give up Gandalf because otherwise it might go to Anthony Hopkins.
00:36:31Actors are so competitive.
00:36:33They're just like us.
00:36:34It goes on like this, to the point that McKellen says that he has to remember to save something for his memoir.
00:36:40It closes with McKellen, off book, reciting a Shakespearean monologue to Marin about the dangers of attacking the other, in this case immigrants.
00:36:50It's a gorgeous moment, despite McKellen's insistence that theater is best without microphones.
00:36:56What the fuckers.
00:36:58This is what Maren calls listeners, along with what the fuck buddies and what the fuck nicks and any number of terms of endearment to open each episode.
00:37:06We'll recall that Maren was so moved that he kept talking about McKellen reciting Shakespeare to him and couldn't help but bring it up to Sir Patrick Stewart when he swung by the garage.
00:37:15Stewart is not impressed.
00:37:17What a show off, he replies.
00:37:20Every time I have heard this, my heart skips a beat.
00:37:23Aren't Stewart and McKellen friends?
00:37:26Stuart then tells the story of his own life.
00:37:30It couldn't be more different than McKellen's, despite their shared traits.
00:37:34Stuart grew up speaking a local dialect, and his father served in battle during World War II.
00:37:40The person who came back from the front was a man prone to violence who beat his wife and terrorized his family.
00:37:47Stewart's interview hinges on his own quest to not be like his father, while also building up his career as a successful Shakespearean actor in his own right, one who would play the monstrous Macbeth and become an activist against intimate partner violence.
00:38:02But all that gets flipped on its head when, many years later, Stewart learns that his father came back from the war with what was then called shell shock, which we would now consider PTSD.
00:38:13In that moment, Stewart says that he realized he had to atone for his years of painting his own father in a villain's light.
00:38:20He decided to take up PTSD as a cause as well.
00:38:24The connection to McKellen comes when Stewart discusses how they finally, after years of parallel career paths, became friends on the set of the X-Men films.
00:38:32As Stewart explains it, he had avoided McKellen for years, because everyone knew from the moment that McKellen appeared on stage at Cambridge that he was a star.
00:38:43Stewart knew he couldn't compete with a man so much more talented and better educated than himself, who never finished school, and so he did his best not to.
00:38:52In his memoir, Stewart also said that McKellen told him not to take his career-making role in Star Trek.
00:38:59But as McKellen and Maren said, the hard feelings tend to fall away over time.
00:39:04McKellen and Stewart started hanging out, realized how much they did have in common, and became fast friends.
00:39:10When McKellen agreed to perform Waiting for Godot on Broadway and needed another actor to take the stage with him, he told the director it should be Stewart.
00:39:19Though it's not said overtly, it becomes clear that after all those decades, whatever inferiority Stuart had to McKellen just fades away, replaced by recognition that everyone involved was struggling to become and be their true selves all the while.
00:39:36This is the moment every time I listen, when I weep.
00:39:40If WTF had its own philosophy of life, it would go more or less like this.
00:39:46You will start out young and filled with righteous anger at how unfair the world is.
00:39:51You will try many things, and you will probably fail at them.
00:39:55But that's okay.
00:39:56Everyone fails.
00:39:58And everyone is hiding shame they believe nobody else will understand.
00:40:02Everyone gets at least a few bad breaks, and some more than a few.
00:40:07But if you hang in there, at some point, you will cease to fail.
00:40:12At some point, you will get a lucky break.
00:40:15At some point, you will look around and realize that while this might not be the life you envisioned, it's still a good life and one you can be proud of.
00:40:25You will fuck up and you know what you should do after?
00:40:27Fucking apologize.
00:40:29And then at some point, after that, you will get older and wiser and realize that your apprehension about Sir Ian McKellen was ridiculous.
00:40:40These are two of my favorite pieces of audio.
00:40:43I recommend them to people constantly.
00:40:45To my ear, they also display what made Maren the best and what made WTF different from any other podcast.
00:40:55He really regularly got interesting people to go to places they would never go in any other interview.
00:41:01Marin famously does very little preparation, a practice I wouldn't recommend for anyone else, but which he can get away with because he's just that good at engaging with people in front of a microphone.
00:41:14This also, strangely enough, sometimes made him an excellent interviewer of women directors and actresses because he knew none of the gossip.
00:41:23He just talked to them like artists and people.
00:41:26In the early episodes, Maren's engagement comes from a sort of reckless anger.
00:41:31He's broke, he feels left behind by his peers and damned by the world, and the Enterprise has a sort of, fuck you, I'll go there, why don't you, feeling.
00:41:42The early success of that sheer audacity, though, didn't stop Maren's self-probing.
00:41:47He didn't wall himself off or protect what he gained once he'd finally gotten it.
00:41:52Instead, he seemed to discover a genuine passion for connecting with people.
00:41:57And what Marin would later describe as a growing capacity for empathy would first temper and then replace the old piss and vinegar.
00:42:05He tries not to judge.
00:42:07He's got too many years of sobriety in him for that.
00:42:10Another frequent topic on the pod.
00:42:12But he does expect honesty and appreciates guests reciprocating his friendly ribbing.
00:42:18If WTF had a motto, it would be go deep or go home.
00:42:23Over the coming months, a lot of best-of lists will get trotted out.
00:42:27They'll include his interview with Robin Williams, episode 67, now in the Library of Congress, his confrontation with Carlos Mencia about joke-stealing, episodes 75 and 76, Todd Hansen, episode 190, Todd Glass, episode 245,
00:42:43Mandy Moore, episode 995.
00:42:46Maren's late partner, Lynn Shelton, episode 627.
00:42:50Pretty much every interview with a comedy legend.
00:42:53Too many to count at this point.
00:42:55And his two-parter with Louis C.K., episodes 111 and 112.
00:43:00But for me, the most important episode that hinges on C.K.
00:43:03isn't his interviews.
00:43:05It's episode 863, Kim Deal.
00:43:08The first episode aired after the New York Times confirmed the longstanding rumor that C.K.
00:43:13had frequently masturbated in front of and around young female comedians.
00:43:18Maren used the introduction before the episode to talk about the report.
00:43:23If the McKellen and Stewart interviews showed WTF at its best in connecting with guests, the introduction for this episode showed why the monologues were just as important and why damn near every other interview podcast would rip off the format.
00:43:37The show's emotional stakes were embedded in those monologues and included everything from Maren wrangling his cats to grappling with his role in his failed marriages to his ongoing sobriety.
00:43:47In this case, the monologue was a place for Maren to grapple with the reports about C.K., who was a big part of the story WTF told about itself.
00:43:56After coming up together in comedy, the two grew distant when CK got famous, and Maren did not.
00:44:03The two-part episode in which Maren and CK worked through all that had already been declared one of the greatest podcast episodes of all time, and Maren had gone on to play himself on CK's acclaimed FX show.
00:44:14How could people not want to know what Maren had to say about a man to whom he'd been so intimately linked?
00:44:21In the first episode after the news, Maren launched right into the monologue this time, with barely a hello.
00:44:27He knew why we were there, and he knew the question at hand.
00:44:32What did he know?
00:44:34Marin says he had heard a story before about unnamed female comedians in Aspen being forced to watch CK jerk off.
00:44:43He says he asked CK about it, and CK told him it was just a rumor and one he would not address publicly because doing so would just give it too much air.
00:44:52Marin says he did not know about the other times this happened, which were reported at the Times article.
00:44:59He believed CK because CK was his friend.
00:45:03But Marin doesn't end there.
00:45:05He unpacks why he didn't know more.
00:45:08Because the entire ecosystem of stand-up comedy made it difficult, if not impossible, for women to come forward and speak up without ending their entire careers.
00:45:18The work environment, the social environment makes it difficult for people to come forward and be heard, to be listened to, to be believed, and for action to be taken around that.
00:45:31It is pushed aside.
00:45:33It is dismissed.
00:45:34It is framed as an annoyance or an embarrassment.
00:45:37It is used against people.
00:45:39It is used as a threat.
00:45:40That is the structure that exists in life.
00:45:44So, so how do we get that power structure in check?
00:45:47The big step is empathy.
00:45:51Something I have, I I've had problems with empathy.
00:45:57You know, when you have man brain or when you don't, you are not capable of, of empathizing properly with women, which I don't think a lot of men are, and I'm not going to speak for all men, but I can speak for myself to find that empathy and
00:46:11It requires some sort of vigilance.
00:46:12It requires, you know, really being not just listening to someone's story or listening to something someone says to actually put yourself in the place of another person.
00:46:21That requires a little work, especially if you're doing it in a work situation, in a situation where there's a power dynamic, in a situation where you're not even seeing a person.
00:46:31You're just seeing a woman who is there to receive your garbage.
00:46:34Right.
00:46:34Or to be used as a sexual object or to be diminished or condescended to or dismissed or pushed aside with your own selfish needs and desires.
00:46:45It's hard to understand that that power dynamic is real and it exists because things have been the way they've been for a long time.
00:46:53From there, Marin thrashes away at all the flimsy and self-justifying excuses made by men across comedy and every other male-dominated field of endeavor.
00:47:03He does not exclude himself from this.
00:47:07He too has been a toxic male presence Marin allows.
00:47:11His IFC show didn't have a single female writer on it and employed only one female director in its entire run.
00:47:18He says that he has to change his mindset.
00:47:20He has to evolve.
00:47:22Yes, even if he's 54.
00:47:23He looks back on the two times he dated fans, marrying one, getting engaged to the other, and admits that there were surely a lot of uncomfortable power dynamics at play that, at the time, he just chose to ignore because they like me and they get me.
00:47:41That he can admit to this now and confess to the work he still has to do, Marin says, is because his job of listening to people taught him to empathize and continues to teach it.
00:47:52He wants to learn, he says, so he can continue to grow.
00:47:56Then he shares a story of the time he was in college.
00:48:00He really admired this one professor who took the young Marin out to eat.
00:48:03The first time they had lunch went great.
00:48:06The second time, they went out to dinner, and the professor forcibly kissed Marin on the mouth.
00:48:11Marin said nothing in response, never reported it, and kept going to class.
00:48:16But he recounts the shame that the experience brought.
00:48:19So yeah, he says, men have to change.
00:48:23They have to quit the toxic bullshit.
00:48:25They just have to.
00:48:26This is obviously a fucking massive, turbulent learning moment for men, he says, if you choose to take the education.
00:48:35And then Maren says, clearly emotional, that he will not stop being friends with CK.
00:48:42It's probably the best time to be his friend.
00:48:44When he needs to make changes in his life, Maren says, holding back tears.
00:48:49You know, I can learn from it.
00:48:52He can learn from it.
00:48:53I hope.
00:48:55I don't know Maren personally, so I'll leave it up to him and McDonald to know the full story of his evolution.
00:49:01But the podcast changed after this episode.
00:49:04They did start interviewing more people from different backgrounds and with different experiences.
00:49:10Maren would speak openly for years about why they had to shut down comments on their website, which was because of the vitriol that greeted every single woman they brought on.
00:49:18Later, McDonald would say, episode 1000, that he was torn about going on with the show after the Times report came out.
00:49:26He tells Marin in the episode, I just remember thinking, are we culpable in this?
00:49:32McDonald says his wife told him to sleep on it, which he did, and the show went on.
00:49:37I agree with that decision, for whatever that's worth.
00:49:40but I appreciated knowing that there were real human thoughts and feelings behind the decision to go on.
00:49:45People who drop in and out of WTF, or who just listen for the interviews, will often complain about the monologues.
00:49:53And if you're just dropping in, sure.
00:49:56Why should you care about Maren's rain gutters?
00:49:58These come up in a lot of episodes.
00:50:00They cover two different houses.
00:50:01But more recently, there's episode 1399.
00:50:04Or the disappearance of Boomer the Cat, episode 320.
00:50:09or his ongoing attempts at having a normal relationship, a continuous theme.
00:50:14But if you have been paying attention, wow, do you care?
00:50:17I have always suspected that the trouble casuals and some critics have with Maren's monologues is that they don't really fit within the historical confines of masculine literature or podcasting.
00:50:31That sort of raw, unadulterated, brutally honest narrative storytelling about everyday life, you could call it domesticity, has always been the purview of women, from the poetry of Adrienne Rich to the essays of Nora Ephron to the memoirs of Mary Carr.
00:50:46Marin, for his part, is a William S. Burroughs guy, and you can see that influence in his work.
00:50:51But even Burroughs was writing from a lofty perch, an acclaimed literary insider from a wealthy family with a Harvard degree.
00:50:58That's not Marin, who came to the mic beaten down by life and his own bad decisions.
00:51:03And that's not the monologues either.
00:51:06There's too much authentic self-doubt in them for that.
00:51:08Early on, it verges on outright self-hatred.
00:51:11He was, when the podcast began, not nearly well enough to swagger like one of the intellectual leaders of the beat generation.
00:51:19Never mind that Maren was also broke, which meant that there could be no great adventures.
00:51:25What else could he talk about but his house, his cats, and his struggles with his own inner demons?
00:51:30In a Marin monologue, even now that he has made it into a much more comfortable life, no wars are won, no animals are hunted, no sports team emerges victorious over the other, no corporate boards are taken over, no muscles are built.
00:51:44It is smaller, finer stuff.
00:51:46You could call it domestic rioting or, as some men have been known to say privately, girl shit.
00:51:52A good Maren monologue is filled with the personal darkness of Sylvia Plath, but intercut with the wry cynicism and comedy of Dorothy Parker.
00:52:01His advice to listeners is on par with what Cheryl Stray did with her Dear Sugar column.
00:52:06Maren's worrying about his weight, his body image, his own health.
00:52:09What female essayist hasn't written about that?
00:52:12Marin telling his fellow men to start being better because a better world for women is a better world for all, which is something he would keep doing long after the CK podcast.
00:52:22Isn't full-on bell hooks?
00:52:24But hey, we all start somewhere.
00:52:27It is, at any rate, a deep and searching examination and inventory.
00:52:32A life pulled apart string by string, then reassembled into something new, perhaps with a little bit more narrative and spice.
00:52:40in search of some greater truths.
00:52:42This is a celebrated tradition in women's writing, but a less celebrated one in the white male canon.
00:52:48It is certainly not reflective of the currently most popular white men in podcasting, which brings us to another reason why WTF had to end.
00:52:59For longtime listeners, the end of WTF is not quite a surprise.
00:53:05Concerns about the future of comedy, of podcasting, and the country itself have been seeping into Maren's monologues for a while now.
00:53:14Maren's talked about moving to Canada, to New York City, and to New Mexico, and probably a few other places that I've forgotten.
00:53:22Maren has also talked about moving to Ireland, but that, to me, always felt less serious.
00:53:27After a disastrous episode with Ben Kingsley, episode 1445, unlike fellow Shakespeareans McKellen and Stewart, Kingsley showed up having no clue how the show worked and is a jerk through much of the episode.
00:53:40The show started bringing back previous guests and having more comics on again.
00:53:45The emphasis shifted towards guests who would click with Maren and not just the biggest names they could get.
00:53:52There was a drawing back in this, but none of that signaled the outright end.
00:53:57To my ears, the end began late last year, when Maren interviewed the influencer-turned-podcaster Bobby Althoff, episode 1600.
00:54:06It's a great interview, and a deeply insightful look into the world of being a person who holds the attention of others.
00:54:13But it's bleak.
00:54:15And Maren does nothing to hide that.
00:54:17At this point in the podcast, producer McDonald was also getting on the mic regularly for the Friday show bonus segment with co-host Chris Lopresto.
00:54:27Their discussion of the Althoff interview felt like two people unpacking the future and facing the darkness of what they saw.
00:54:34More recently, Marin talked to MSNBC host Chris Hayes about his book, The Siren's Call, episode 1621.
00:54:42It's another great talk, as Marin would say, but one that delves right into our current information system and the way in which it exploits, monetizes, and weaponizes our attention spans.
00:54:54Maren has remained on top of this media landscape, but that doesn't mean he likes it.
00:54:59In explaining why they were wrapping up the show on a bonus episode last week, both Maren and McDonald were clear about that.
00:55:06The media landscape is changing, they explained, and they were burned out after posting at least two episodes a week for 16 years.
00:55:13They've interviewed everyone they've ever wanted.
00:55:14They've done so many shows.
00:55:16And as Maren says, at some point, who is even going to listen to all this?
00:55:20And at some point, what else can we do?
00:55:23Why just plug along talking to people they don't want to talk to, Maren asks.
00:55:28Having a podcast, he continues, is a punchline now.
00:55:32They also address the podcast industry's ongoing pivot to video.
00:55:36Through it all, WTF has remained audio only.
00:55:40McDonald says they can get away with audio only because of their clout and success.
00:55:46But, he goes on to say, the industry is changing such that, were it to continue, the show would have to do a lot of things that McDonald and Maren don't want to do.
00:55:55Add video.
00:55:56Add even more advertisements.
00:55:58Use inserted ads as opposed to those Maren reads.
00:56:01Those are not compromises they want to make.
00:56:04Any fan of podcasts knows that this is true.
00:56:07Once seen as a competitor for radio, video shows being called podcasts are now becoming a sort of background TV for our lives.
00:56:17Something you throw up on YouTube and play while you work or study or commute or maybe even while you watch something else on another screen simultaneously.
00:56:26Both Maren and McDonald know what this means.
00:56:30The future of podcasting is both longer and shallower than the present.
00:56:35Shows stretching out to fill more time without actually containing more stuff.
00:56:41Layers of visuals and cutaways to add interest to what is still mostly noise.
00:56:48In an attention economy that has been degraded in this way, there is little place for a long-form, in-depth interview.
00:56:55It's not that they believe WTF to be something precious and holy, but they do believe it is worth listening to more intently than that.
00:57:04They could adapt, but also they don't have to.
00:57:09The most important relationship embodied on WTF, much more so than Marin and his girlfriends, has been Marin and McDonald.
00:57:17Each, when asked, has always said they'll do it as long as the other guy wants to.
00:57:22They're open about always being 50-50 on the show.
00:57:25They've never sold it.
00:57:26They never used it to build out their own podcast network.
00:57:30It was always, even after Obama came on the show, a little punk rock.
00:57:35Or at least as punk as you could be while giving out promo codes for Stamps.com, JustCoffee.coop, Squarespace, and Adam and Eve.
00:57:44Even as the show grew and they added outside help with bookings and the like, it was in rock and roll parlance, always marrying a McDonald's band.
00:57:53In the crass world of intellectual property, stories are now forced to go on forever and
00:57:58Or as long as there's money to be wrung from them.
00:58:01Punk lives on a different, shorter timetable.
00:58:04Bands end.
00:58:06That's part of what makes them so special.
00:58:08Everyone knows this, and so everyone knows that you have to enjoy them while they last.
00:58:14If it can end without the bandmates hating each other, it's a miracle.
00:58:19Maren and McDonald and WTF seem headed for that kind of happy ending.
00:58:25On an episode whose number I actually cannot recall, McDonald once said something to the effect of he always thought of WTF as the Marc Maron audio diaries.
00:58:35Near the end of their most recent conversation, McDonald points out that Maron has achieved pretty much everything he wanted to do when the podcast started.
00:58:44Acting?
00:58:45Check.
00:58:46Your own TV show?
00:58:48Check.
00:58:49Interviewing Lorne Michaels and Keith Richards?
00:58:52Twice.
00:58:54And Obama.
00:58:55And some of comedy's biggest and most interview-averse legends, including Albert Brooks and Carol Burnett?
00:59:02Check.
00:59:03HBO special?
00:59:04Check.
00:59:06A documentary about him premiered at Tribeca.
00:59:08Marin's even expected to direct soon.
00:59:10Hearing McDonald talk to Marin about this, you could hear his producer brain signaling that we are now in the third act of the Marin Audio Diaries.
00:59:19The conflicts have been resolved.
00:59:21The goals have been achieved.
00:59:22It is just about time to wrap this up and get the audience home.
00:59:27It wasn't quite a hero's journey.
00:59:30The story being told over these 16 years was about one man's journey to get his damn life together and figure out his shit.
00:59:37Marin did that.
00:59:38He can just be Marc Marin now.
00:59:41Do his comedy.
00:59:42Do his acting.
00:59:43Send his friends some cash if they need it.
00:59:45If there were a towel of Brendan MacDonald, it would be the closing line of the episode.
00:59:50That's actually life.
00:59:51That's how it should work.
00:59:53You're like, I've had success.
00:59:55It's moved me along to a point of happiness.
00:59:57And now I can think about other people.
00:59:59That's great.
01:00:01The future for WTF will be heavy on awards and celebrations, pieces like this one looking back on the show as a text, and profiles and interviews celebrating Marin as a hero.
01:00:12There will be so many best of lists.
01:00:16For a long time, what the fuckers, there will also be a chance to look back and take stock of our own lives.
01:00:22Where were we when this started?
01:00:24And where are we now?
01:00:26When WTF launched, I was working at the Miami Herald a little less than six months after the newspaper had almost laid me off as part of a company-wide reduction in force.
01:00:38The only reason I got to keep my job was because another reporter in my cohort took a buyout.
01:00:43His wife was going to medical school outside of the state.
01:00:46He was moving away anyway.
01:00:47It was just dumb luck.
01:00:50A much older and wiser and incredibly accomplished investigative journalist got laid off in that round, entirely because he happened to get hired at a later date than me.
01:01:00At his going-away party, he told me not to feel bad.
01:01:03I should stay, he said.
01:01:05I deserve to stay.
01:01:06He was right.
01:01:09I had horrible survivor's guilt anyway.
01:01:11Over time, I grew to wish I had been laid off.
01:01:16There were furloughs.
01:01:18So many furloughs.
01:01:20Sometime after surviving the layoffs, after I started listening to WTF, I got moved downtown to work the night shift.
01:01:26Over time, it became clear that Harold was never moving me off that assignment.
01:01:33I listened to WTF during my commute and while I applied for other jobs.
01:01:37No one else in journalism wanted to hire me.
01:01:39I was burned out.
01:01:41I was tired.
01:01:43I felt like my career had been a waste.
01:01:45I did not have much money in my bank account.
01:01:48I eventually quit and drove with my boyfriend across the country to Los Angeles to try to do something, anything new with my life.
01:01:58I had one of my cats in the car with me.
01:01:59The other cat rode with him and his and caught up on WTF episodes along the way.
01:02:06The boyfriend is now my husband, and he swears WTF is the reason we're married.
01:02:11When we were dating long distance, we would listen to each new episode and then talk about it that night.
01:02:18Well, giving WTF all the credit might be a bit much.
01:02:22He has a point.
01:02:24WTF got me and us through a lot of
01:02:28I listened to it while we learned to live together and after we got married.
01:02:32And as I grew up and my elders passed away and while I wrote my first sports stories for some flannel wearing guy at a place called the classical.
01:02:42And while I worked at NFL media and while I spent a year writing sketch comedy at UCB.
01:02:47And when I cold emailed a popular sports blog that had been called out for having no women on its full-time staff and
01:02:54and suggested that they should hire me.
01:02:55Which they did.
01:02:57I never stopped listening to it.
01:02:59This is something like my whole adult life.
01:03:03Like Maren finally getting his HBO comedy special, I finally achieved my lifelong dream of selling a nonfiction book.
01:03:11If I know a long-distance car ride is coming up, I'll stock up on episodes and listen to them with my husband.
01:03:16We still talk about them afterward.
01:03:19I don't have I can walk away from it all money, but I am in a better place.
01:03:25It's been a journey, but this is a good life.
01:03:29Like Maren, I have different cats from when WTF started.
01:03:32This is just the way the world works and what time does.
01:03:37Real what the fuckers know Boomer Lives, so do Monkey and LaFonda, as do my girls, Catherine Graham and Lily, and cat angels really are everywhere.
01:03:47We know that things change.
01:04:06Is someone chopping onions?
01:04:08Yeah, that was that man.
01:04:10That's a, that's a hell of a thing.
01:04:12A hell of a thing.
01:04:13I can't thank Diana enough for doing it on the show here like this, but also I just can't thank her enough for putting her talents at crafting an essay like that.
01:04:24Um, and, and devoting it to our show.
01:04:26It's just really, really humbling, uh, to hear that.
01:04:30And, um,
01:04:32Like, it made me feel like, it almost made me feel like being caught by a detective.
01:04:36I bet.
01:04:37That's exactly what I was thinking.
01:04:38I was thinking of the end of The Usual Suspects.
01:04:43Like, she figured it all out.
01:04:47She picked up every clue.
01:04:48Oh, I was totally the snowman.
01:04:51I was like, I gave you all the clues.
01:04:54And yes.
01:04:55She got them all.
01:04:56How do you feel?
01:04:57Like, how do you feel being seen?
01:05:00Great.
01:05:00That was the most humbling and emotional takeaway from it for me was I was like, man, it wasn't hidden.
01:05:11Like, I was okay with it being hidden.
01:05:13Right.
01:05:14As an inside joke.
01:05:15Something only for you.
01:05:16But it was...
01:05:18And validating to me that if someone was astute enough and was paying attention in the way, and as she was, as devoted to the show as a part of her life as she was, she was able to pick all that stuff up.
01:05:33And look, again, it's one of those things where sometimes you think a thing about yourself and you probably let it pass because you're like, that's a bit grandiose or whatever.
01:05:41But I just have, I have always thought...
01:05:44look, you know, the guests are important and the show is about, you know, humanity and people.
01:05:52And I loved her way of putting it.
01:05:53It's like, this is the story of a guy trying to get his shit together.
01:05:56And that's exactly how I've always seen it.
01:05:59But like I always had in the back thought of my head, I was like, well, this thing works because, you know, whatever growth you want to talk about with Mark, one of the things he never really had to grow up
01:06:10about was his relationship with me.
01:06:13He has been an above board, excellent partner from the day we started working together.
01:06:19And it never fucking changed.
01:06:21It is the most consistent thing in the 16 years of this show is the way we have worked together.
01:06:27And that's not...
01:06:29a fucking lie that is not exaggeration that is not like in any way me trying to look at something in hindsight that has been the way it's been since the start and it's just like I can't believe somebody else got that
01:06:45And I know you.
01:06:46And like, I know that if just one person sees that, then it would all have been worth it, you know?
01:06:54And like, Diana did that.
01:06:56And I'm sure she is not alone.
01:07:00And that's the great thing is that everyone's journey with this show will be different and unique.
01:07:08I just feel so great for you and for Mark.
01:07:12Also, I had a bit of like a coffee spit take when, or like a jump scare when my name is mentioned.
01:07:19It was like Mike Myers.
01:07:23And then next to it, it did not say, please stop making a scene.
01:07:26Yes, yes.
01:07:26Just like as if Mike Myers came into the room just shrieking.
01:07:31Like why is that happening?
01:07:33But yeah, just beautiful.
01:07:35Like what a – man, what a beautiful tear-invoking essay that was.
01:07:42That was just great.
01:07:43I got to tell you the most Mark thing though is right after he read it, he, you know, he writes back to, like I sent it to him and I was like, take some time, get yourself some, don't read this now.
01:07:54Cause when I sent it to him, I knew he was not home.
01:07:57And I said, don't read this now.
01:07:58Give yourself like a good 30 minutes, 40 minutes when you have nothing to do and read this because it is a stunner.
01:08:05And I didn't say anything else about it.
01:08:06And he, he wrote back when it was over and he said, wow, got me all choked up.
01:08:11And I was like, you know, then we're going back and forth about the piece.
01:08:15And he goes, I feel like I should get that out there somehow.
01:08:21I literally, all I wrote back was, LOL, somehow.
01:08:27If only there was a way.
01:08:28Well then, wait, hang on.
01:08:30Then a few seconds later, he writes back, okay, I posted an IG story about it.
01:08:37And I wrote, also, you can talk about it on the very popular and influential podcast that the article is about.
01:08:50Oh, man, to put it in stick or golf terms, he could just put it in.
01:08:57But also totally blind to it.
01:09:00It's amazing.
01:09:00It's like an airplane.
01:09:03The guy's drinking problem where he just keeps throwing the drink in his face.
01:09:06It's the same thing with Mark.
01:09:07He's got podcast blindness.
01:09:10Oh, Mark.
01:09:12It never changed.
01:09:13Oh, man.
01:09:14Well, I will also put a link to the full essay in the episode description.
01:09:19And the comments link is there, too, if you want to click on that and send us anything.
01:09:24There's a lot that has come in, obviously.
01:09:26And, you know, as I said, I don't want every episode of this to be like a eulogy about the show.
01:09:32But I will want to read your comments on the air and talk about your reactions to WTF.
01:09:39So keep them coming.
01:09:40I really appreciate those things coming in.
01:09:42And again, a big thanks to Diana Moskovitz, not only for writing the piece, but for agreeing to read it here on the show.
01:09:50Really, thank you.
01:09:51Thanks for giving that to our listeners.
01:09:52I can't can't thank you enough.
01:09:55And and that's it's going to we're going to keep doing it.
01:09:57We're going to keep doing this.
01:09:57We've got a bunch more guests coming up next week.
01:10:01You know, Kristen Milioti, always liked her, seen her in a million things.
01:10:06didn't know that mark would know anything about her and i brought her name up and he was like from the penguin and i was like wait you watch the penguin and he was like yeah i love the penguin so i was like all right let's giddy up on this because i've enjoyed her uh going back to seeing her on broadway in once
01:10:23That's where I saw her.
01:10:24And I was like, that's a star right there.
01:10:27Exactly.
01:10:27I remember one time I went to the premiere of season three of Girls, the Lena Dunham show.
01:10:36And it went as press.
01:10:38And just somebody invited me.
01:10:40And I'm on the press, on the line getting my press credentials.
01:10:44And someone asked me, excuse me, is this the line to get in?
01:10:48And it was her.
01:10:49It was Kristen Milioti, who I think was in the season that year.
01:10:53Oh, my gosh.
01:10:54And she was like dressed for a premiere.
01:10:56Like she's in a nice dress.
01:10:57And I'm like, oh, no, no, no.
01:11:00You don't belong here.
01:11:01This is...
01:11:03This is for like non-talented people.
01:11:06You are very talented.
01:11:08You belong.
01:11:08Can we get a publicist over here, somebody and help this extremely talented person to her seat where she belongs?
01:11:17Not with these booger pickers.
01:11:20That's wonderful.
01:11:23But so, yes, she's on Monday and Megan Stalter, who is quite the character on Hacks and and in her own show coming out very soon.
01:11:32I believe it's coming out next week.
01:11:34So those are those are next week's guests.
01:11:36Jordan Klepper, the week after that, we've got some really good ones coming up for you.
01:11:40So keep tuning in for those.
01:11:42Send us your comments by clicking on the link.
01:11:44Read that piece by Diana in The Defector.
01:11:47And until next time, I'm Brendan and that's Chris.
01:11:50Peace.
01:11:50Thank you.

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