Episode 1443 - Ramy Youssef
Marc:Lock the gates!
Marc:All right, let's do this.
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Marc:What the fuckers?
Marc:What the fuck buddies?
Marc:What the fucksters?
Marc:What's happening?
Marc:I'm Mark Maron.
Marc:This is my podcast WTF.
Marc:It goes on.
Marc:Welcome to it.
Marc:How is everybody?
Marc:Is everybody okay?
Marc:Today, Rami Youssef is on the show.
Marc:He's a comic and actor who kind of surprised everyone.
Marc:when he won the Golden Globe for Best Actor in a Television Series for his show Rami back in 2019.
Marc:The show and Rami himself have since been nominated for Emmys in season three, premiered earlier this year.
Marc:He's in the new... It's on Hulu.
Marc:He's also in the new Yorgos Lanthimos movie, which looks Yorgos Lanthimos-y.
Marc:I can't... I don't know what to make of it, but that's how I enter all his films, and good for Rami for getting that.
Marc:But...
Marc:The amazing thing is that sometimes I don't know the work of the people coming on, but I know that I should know it, and I know that they would be an interesting interview.
Marc:And it was the same with Rami.
Marc:So before I interviewed him, I watched his comedy specials, and I watched all the seasons of his show.
Marc:And it's just one of these things where...
Marc:It's not that I'm out of the loop.
Marc:I'm busy.
Marc:I'm busy baking and cleaning shelves and doing little odd jobs around the house.
Marc:I have a full day of bullshit tasks that never end.
Marc:So it's very hard for me to stay in the loop with culture and media.
Marc:Like, I do know that President Trump was indicted again, and that's exciting.
Marc:But, you know, it's just all tempered by the fact that he's trying to, you know, race the clock now.
Marc:And I believe that if he, you know, if he is elected again, he will never leave for sure.
Marc:And that will be the big shift.
Marc:It's already happening.
Marc:But nonetheless, let's talk about Rami Youssef.
Marc:It's just one of these shows into a world, into a life, into a way of life, into an American life that
Marc:That I really knew nothing about.
Marc:And it turns out like it's that is more so than not.
Marc:Look, I, you know, I'm a tolerant person.
Marc:I'm an accepting person.
Marc:You know, I'm a sort of like, you know, live the life that you've put together for yourself in this country that used to really enable that in a more kind of a proactive way.
Marc:But I knew nothing.
Marc:about American Muslims, immigrant people.
Marc:I didn't know much about the Muslim religion.
Marc:I didn't know how first generation Americans who come from religious Muslim families from elsewhere organized their life, organized their community, had the friendships they have within that religious community and just within that community itself.
Marc:And this is a kid who grew up in New Jersey.
Marc:But, you know, the window in for me was as, you know, provocative and funny and beautiful as, you know, me first experiencing reservation dogs.
Marc:It's like, look, I know we walk alongside of all these people in our country and we see them at work or, you know, passing by on the street.
Marc:I live in an Armenian neighborhood.
Marc:I know very little.
Marc:So...
Marc:I guess I think what I'm saying is I would enjoy a series about an Armenian family so I could better understand my neighbors.
Marc:I imagine there's other ways to do it.
Marc:Maybe I could be friends with people from the neighborhood and enjoy that.
Marc:I mean, I'll have a nice kebab occasionally, but I don't know how everything's organized.
Marc:I know that they seem to enjoy white automobiles, and I don't think that's racist.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:It seems to be true.
Marc:And I can tell the style of their yards and their houses, but I don't know how they live.
Marc:But this show, Rami...
Marc:was just mind-blowing.
Marc:You know, the struggles he goes through as an American and as a guy that's not sure where he stands with his faith and as a guy who is, you know, kind of like straddling two cultures, it was educational and funny and emotional, the struggles that I don't know.
Marc:But man, I mean, I just was blown away by the whole thing and know a lot more.
Marc:I'm happy to have the knowledge.
Marc:I'm happy to be able to have a type of empathy now for a religious group, a religious community, an immigrant group that is more informed than it was previous.
Marc:So there.
Marc:So that's what I'm saying.
Marc:Also, folks, I'm ready to answer more of your burning questions.
Marc:We've got another Ask Mark Anything episode coming up for full Marin subscribers, but you don't have to be subscribed to ask a question.
Marc:Just go to the episode description in whatever app you're using right now and click on the question link.
Marc:I'll answer them on next week's bonus episode.
Marc:All right.
Marc:That's going to happen.
Marc:It's going to happen.
Marc:So I'm really starting to question my choices around my time.
Marc:I think everything's all right.
Marc:Look, man, if you clean out an office or you clean out a room or you make your stacks into piles or you make your piles into shelved items, at least you can look at it and go, look what I did.
Marc:You know, I feel that when I do laundry.
Marc:I'm like, I'm so proud of myself.
Marc:Look, I made my bed again.
Marc:Hey, look, my shoes are all in a line.
Marc:I mean, this stuff is satisfying, but I don't know if it's a life, is it?
Marc:I can't consider food shopping a hobby, can I?
Marc:I did just make a vat of vegetarian chili for a party I'm going to.
Marc:That was a good few hours yesterday.
Marc:I got it from that Angelica Kitchen cookbook that somebody sent me, and it's amazing.
Marc:I made a vegan cornbread, and I love doing it.
Marc:But man, that chili was labor intensive and there's a lot of it.
Marc:So now I have now I'm in that situation where I used to go to these parties and bring like a smoked brisket, which took like 10 and a half to 11 hours.
Marc:This only took like two or three all in.
Marc:But the issue with brisket, if it turns out good, people are just going to eat the fuck out of that shit.
Marc:But if I'm bringing this vat of chili, and if it doesn't go, I'm bringing it home.
Marc:That's the way that's going to go.
Marc:I'm bringing it home.
Marc:I'm going to freeze some of it.
Marc:Too much work into it.
Marc:The cornbread, that was easy.
Marc:That's disposable.
Marc:But the chili, that was a day.
Marc:I'll let you know how that goes.
Marc:But in terms of my life, like I, you know, look, I'm working, I'm doing what I do.
Marc:I'm a comedian and I'm doing new material and having a good time of it.
Marc:But, you know, I spend my life doing it.
Marc:I've always spent my life doing it.
Marc:And you start to ask yourself when you're immersed in a job, even if you like it, it's sort of like, is this a compulsive behavior or do you just not know what else to do?
Marc:Or do you love it?
Marc:Do you feel like you have to do it?
Marc:Like these are questions.
Marc:These are questions.
Marc:though I am enjoying the new jokes.
Marc:But I always find that, like, I try to talk about things because there's very few things I haven't talked about.
Marc:And at Largo, there was some personal excavation going on that's yielding something.
Marc:But I don't know why I feel it's important to share some of that stuff.
Marc:And to find it funny, I don't know.
Marc:It doesn't there's got to be a bottom to the pit of me, I would think at some point.
Marc:But I do leave a little kind of like, wow, like that was was that necessary to talk about that?
Marc:And is that my job?
Marc:Is that entertaining?
Marc:I don't know.
Marc:It doesn't matter, you guys.
Marc:Look, I got a vat of chili in the house.
Marc:I got a vat of chili and I've got to go.
Marc:I did it.
Marc:I made it a day early so the flavors would take and I'm going to go heat it up and make sure it's salted properly.
Marc:And, you know, this is this is my work.
Marc:This is my work for today.
Marc:You know, finishing up the chili, a two day process.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:But anyways, I do have some gigs coming up.
Marc:I believe if you go to wtfpod.com slash tour, I think I'm doing another Dynasty typewriter show here in Los Angeles on June 24th, I think.
Marc:Go check.
Marc:I think July 1st at Largo for a music show.
Marc:And I guess I got to get some dates up.
Marc:I've got some club dates coming up to start.
Marc:Doing the work.
Marc:I mean, I guess it's what I do.
Marc:It's what I live.
Marc:It's how I live.
Marc:It's who I am.
Marc:It is how I've chosen to be me in the world and to put me out in it.
Marc:Right?
Marc:It's okay.
Marc:It's all right.
Marc:So Rami Youssef, this is the first time we've met.
Marc:And, you know, I entered as a new fan and a pretty big fan.
Marc:You can watch all three seasons of Rami on Hulu.
Marc:He's also the co-creator of Mo on Netflix.
Marc:That Mo Amir guy, I should talk to him probably at some point.
Marc:I don't know why that hasn't happened.
Marc:But also his comedy specials, Rami.
Marc:And yeah, so this is me hanging out with Rami Youssef.
Marc:I lived in Queens for years, and I didn't know what was going on in Queens, but I knew it hadn't.
Marc:So you hung out with Egyptians.
Marc:Yeah, totally.
Marc:I was around the corner from the Egyptians on Steinway.
Marc:Yeah.
Guest:Like at the end of Steinway.
Guest:That's where we lived there, like my whole childhood.
Guest:was there, and then when, like, my early childhood, and then when I was, like, seven or eight, we went to Jersey.
Guest:But, yeah, my grandparents were always there.
Guest:My grandfather's still there, right off Steinway.
Marc:Yeah, it's, uh, there's, um, it's weird with Queens, though, because, like, you get, like, that one, that part of Steinway, which is at the end of Steinway before the highway, it's just all Egyptian.
Marc:Yep.
Marc:And then a couple blocks go down, Greeks, and then there's Dominicans.
Marc:It's, like, crazy.
Marc:I know.
Marc:The one thing that always struck me is, like, I'd be coming home from doing comedy,
Marc:like 2.30 in the morning, and there were whole families shopping for vegetables.
Marc:It's like, kids don't sleep?
Marc:Is there any rules applied to anything?
Guest:No, that's Egypt, though.
Guest:Egypt's like, you fix your car 1 in the morning.
Guest:Like, no problem.
Guest:Oil change, transmission.
Guest:Yeah, yeah, everyone's.
Guest:Why?
Guest:There's no limit.
Guest:It's just whatever you need.
Guest:Egypt is all about, it's like this level of hospitality.
Guest:Like, my dad was a hotel manager, too, so it's like he,
Guest:In Egypt, too?
Guest:He worked at a hotel in Egypt.
Guest:Both my parents did.
Guest:But then he was in the States, obviously.
Guest:But it's very Egyptian to, like, just someone says they want something and you're like, yeah, let's do it.
Guest:There's no time limit.
Guest:It's like, if you have money, let's do it.
Guest:And I think that's why, you know, America is so attractive to us because it feels like the land of everything.
Guest:Like, let's do it.
Guest:Yeah, it's possible.
Marc:Is it, though?
Marc:Did that translate?
Marc:Does your family still feel that way?
Marc:Didn't pan out.
Marc:No, didn't.
Marc:The deal has fallen through.
Marc:I'll tell you that.
Guest:It did not occur the way that they thought it would.
Guest:No.
No.
Marc:I watched a special, and I think I'm a couple episodes into the newest season.
Marc:Oh, cool.
Marc:So I've made it that far.
Marc:Oh, wow.
Marc:Thank you.
Marc:Yeah, I watched it all.
Marc:Because I find myself doing that because I don't watch things if I don't do that.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Because I live the life that you live.
Marc:I live the life of a comic anyways.
Marc:Like most people, they work and they go home and they watch TV.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Like I've got, I don't watch fucking TV.
Guest:I know.
Marc:I know.
Marc:And I don't know what's on.
Marc:So I watched, you know, two and a half seasons or two seasons and change of yours.
Marc:And I'm like, how long has this even been out there?
Marc:I know.
Marc:This seems like a very good show.
Marc:It seems to mean something.
Marc:Does everyone know about it?
Marc:Someone should tell people about this show.
Guest:Well, yeah, it's so funny, man, because it's like there's a lot of stuff.
Marc:There's a lot of stuff, but I had the same experience with Reservation Dogs.
Marc:Oh, it's great.
Marc:I love it.
Marc:And he put me on an episode this last season because I pestered him because I love the show so much.
Marc:But I was like, does anyone know about these natives?
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:I mean, this is something that I know it's a comedy show, but we should learn about the natives.
Marc:Why isn't anyone paying attention to this?
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:I have it with everything.
Marc:Even Underground Railroad, which, you know, we all, but I literally was like, do people really know the real deal about the slavery?
Marc:It's like Mr. White Guy being educated by anything I watch.
Guest:It's crazy.
Guest:I think we need to brush up on the Underground Railroad for sure as a society.
Marc:Did you watch that thing?
Guest:Dude, it's crazy.
Guest:It's crazy.
Marc:It's a fucking masterpiece.
Marc:Yeah, it's really.
Marc:And I talked to Jenkins and it was like, nobody, nobody watched it.
Marc:Nobody fucking wants shit.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:It's really tough, dude.
Guest:Is it?
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:I mean, because it's also like, I don't know if you felt this on your show, but it's like maybe your show, I don't know.
Guest:I feel really like, I felt like I really heard about your show.
Guest:I feel like it was like one of the few things that they were really putting marketing behind.
Marc:My TV show?
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Well, you were the only one.
Marc:No.
That'd be the right thing.
Marc:My show, because this is like when I watch your show, like I can like what I mentioned to my producer was like, this is the world that that Louis discovered.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:That, you know, he found if if if there's a main contribution to creators or to us, to comics, to people that have artistic sensibilities and want to do something is that he made a model for that.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Like, you know, to take each episode as its own piece.
Marc:And to sort of, you know, take risks that may not make sense.
Marc:That are aesthetic or filmic or peculiar.
Marc:To sort of like leave a poetry to it.
Marc:I think that he...
Marc:Open that space.
Marc:Big time.
Marc:And, you know, I can see it in your show more than any of the other shows I've watched.
Marc:Because Reservation Dogs is doing a different thing, but it's still a single camera thing.
Marc:But you, as a comic and, you know, a selfish, fucked up person, you know.
Marc:You're like, oh, I can just be me then if I lean on the ethnicity thing.
Marc:I can jerk off in every episode and tell God to go fuck himself.
Marc:The door is open.
Marc:I never tell God to go fuck himself.
Marc:It's a stress.
Marc:There's the guilt.
Marc:It's very tough.
Marc:You're defying God.
Marc:to make himself present in your life in a way that's more tangible.
Marc:It's about shame, Mark.
Marc:Shame, absolutely.
Marc:It's about shame.
Marc:What is it about the shame, the compulsion?
Marc:I have it.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Of course.
Marc:I don't even know what it is, but it's like I feel it constantly to the point where I think it's about how we're brought up, but maybe it's religious with you.
Guest:I don't know.
Guest:I think it's everything.
Guest:I mean, but I also think that I, you know, it's funny even talking about, you know, this, I was talking about this with a, with a friend of mine who, who, who, he's a line producer actually on, on, on our show.
Guest:And he was just like, yeah, I feel this thing in you that, you know, you're, you're constantly like, like you have that thing where it's like never enough, you know, but, but in a weird way, I don't feel like you're doing it cause you need more.
Guest:It's almost like you feel like your parents need more, you know, like you're,
Guest:And it is that thing of, you know, what we were talking about.
Guest:Like, did the deal pay off to come to this country?
Guest:And I feel like this constant, I think, my whole life, this debt on my head.
Guest:Hey, this better be worth it, being here.
Guest:Every breath.
Marc:A debt to, like, being taken.
Marc:A debt to my family.
Marc:Oh.
Guest:You know, because knowing there was this strain of, you know, we're in a place that at first a place that's just difficult to be in.
Guest:And then I think, you know, we get into this in the first season, but I do think growing up in Jersey and New York in the early O's, you know, spending now like more adult time away and being like, oh, that was pretty fucked up.
Guest:Like we, it was this weird thing for a kid.
Guest:Like maybe as an adult, you have a better handle on it.
Guest:But as a kid, you're kind of just growing up in constant confusion and fear.
Guest:And I think like,
Guest:Again, this feeling of, oh, I better make this worth it for my family.
Guest:And so the shame was so baked in for me.
Guest:Everything is just like, what are you doing with your time?
Marc:What are you doing with your time?
Marc:What are you doing with who you are?
Marc:So the frequency of shame was there, you know, always just by expectation, by immigrant expectation.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:But then like, you know, you chose to build on that shame.
Guest:Well, yeah, then there's the part of me that's like, well, fuck it.
Marc:How am I going to feel better in a normal way?
Guest:How am I going to feel better in a normal way?
Marc:But getting back to whatever you were going to say about my show, my show was, you know, I fought for that show.
Marc:But in retrospect, you know, and I'm dealing with this now, I don't think I'm that interesting.
Marc:And I don't think that my story is that...
Guest:relatable necessarily I think people like the show and I think it was as honest as I could be well I was just gonna say it was very honest I feel like that's that's my favorite thing about watching you like anytime I've seen you like you know and I've seen you over the years maybe we've actually only intersected at like two shows where we've talked but like I'll always see you and I'm it's always one of those like oh yeah I gotta hang in the room because like he's just he doesn't care about like dressing it up for people like it's like you're just saying it and I think that that I grew up on Carlin right so it's like
Guest:I love that.
Guest:I love that just like straight up.
Guest:This is what's on my mind.
Guest:And I, you know, my whole family, you know, you would get along with my family.
Guest:They're like sarcastic, bitter, you know, like self-deprecating.
Guest:You're very Arab in my mind.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:So like I see the link.
Marc:Well, I mean, I don't know that I know how to dress it up.
Marc:Like I'm like now – like I wish I had that skill.
Marc:I think that's one of my – I don't know if it's a shortcoming, but it's just what I did.
Marc:I'm trying to – after the special –
Marc:I got on stage last night for the first time to really do, I was locked into a log set.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:I went to the Ice House.
Marc:You know, I got an opener.
Marc:I got a host.
Marc:And I think I got maybe 35.
Marc:But I'm like, well, I got to do 50.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:So let's go.
Marc:And anytime I do that, it's almost inevitable that I'll drive home embarrassed.
I know.
Marc:I know, dude.
Marc:Right?
Marc:And just sort of like, why did you even tell them that?
Marc:What did I put people through?
Marc:Yeah, all that.
Marc:I made them pay.
Marc:But I'm digging deep for what don't they know.
Marc:There's some sort of expectation...
Marc:For, like, I hope he says some weird shit about himself that, you know, might possibly embarrass him because that's what I'm here for.
Marc:And then you're driving home.
Marc:You're like, I did nine minutes on cats.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Well, that's the go-to if you have to.
Marc:I don't have any.
Marc:There's going to be nine minutes on cats no matter what I do.
Marc:But it's talking about, you know, your dick or who you're dating or, you know.
Marc:For some reason, you know, like last night I was like, I've decided to talk about the two threesomes I had in college.
Marc:Oh, yeah.
Marc:I just think the funny part of it is like in a threesome, someone's just going to end up watching their friend fuck for a while.
Marc:And that's, were you the watcher?
Marc:Yeah, of course.
Marc:Yeah, of course.
Marc:And that sticks with you.
Marc:Oh, yeah, of course.
Marc:I guess I'm done.
Marc:But I'm in this, so go for it, you guys.
Guest:I would imagine that's why the memory stuck, because I think if you were doing, you wouldn't remember as much as witnessing.
Marc:No, I always, you know, it took me a long time to get a handle on that.
Marc:Oh, fuck.
Marc:I'm sorry.
Marc:Do you want me?
Marc:And it got processed last night at the ice house.
Marc:I just think it's a funny idea.
Marc:Right now, I'm just trying to see what's actually relatable to grownups.
Marc:When you say that, you immediately know who's done that.
Marc:Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Marc:You know what I mean?
Marc:It's not like this common thing for my generation, really.
Guest:Right.
Guest:Maybe you.
Guest:I don't know.
Guest:I don't know.
Guest:I never was involved in one, and I don't know anyone who was.
Guest:Maybe I know, like, one or two people, but— Maybe it's the ones younger than us.
Guest:I don't know who's doing it, but I heard it's a thing.
Guest:I'm sure someone is, but, you know, or generations.
Guest:But, yeah, if you watch Euphoria, you're like, whoa, these guys are doing crazy stuff.
Guest:Yeah, I didn't feel correct.
Guest:I felt like I was doing something illegal watching the show.
Guest:Yeah, I, by the way, was like, as someone who in my life has seen a significant amount of porn, I was like, whoa, I don't know about this.
Guest:I can't do this.
Yeah.
Guest:Yeah, porn's a brain breaker.
Guest:It is not.
Guest:Well, that's something that I think, you know, we really tried to get into in the show where it's like there's the religious guilt, but also just like having porn that young.
Guest:You know, when I look back at it, I'm like, oh, that really...
Marc:really messed with my sense of understanding just the relationship intimacy intimacy it took up a lot of my attention it was you know drug it's a it's a drug well yeah and it's not until this season it seems to the what the beginning of the third season the last season that you actually are you know your doctor friend is actually sort of like you're you got your porn ad you're like a drug addict
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:But it doesn't come up for two seasons.
Marc:Because you just want to make sure all the porn heads relate on that guy.
Marc:And then drop the sickness frame on them in the last season.
Guest:And look, and to be clear, I'm not trying to be, you know, it's funny because...
Guest:There is that thing in me, and maybe it is the Egyptian thing in me, where I don't want to offend anyone, actually.
Guest:So I'm even like, look, this is no disrespect to the sex worker industry.
Guest:This is no disrespect to people who do that.
Guest:Because it's not about critiquing.
Guest:It's truly about saying, I know this was true for me.
Guest:This warped a lot of a worldview in a way that I know it's also affected a lot of people that I know.
Marc:Yeah, but I think that you can push back on the idea, like, you know, fine, you know, sex workers, you know, do what they have to do.
Marc:And, you know, it's their business.
Marc:But there is a framing out there that is brought up in defense of sex work that says, like, porn is not addictive, which I can is categorically not true.
Marc:It's not true.
Guest:I know.
Guest:It's just not true.
Marc:But the reason they push they say that is because there's a fine line between saying porn is addictive and moralizing.
Marc:There's a fine line between saying it's addictive or it's wrong.
Marc:So that industry wants to avoid that framing.
Marc:So they have self-respect.
Marc:I don't know.
Marc:So the industry isn't ashamed?
Marc:I don't know.
Guest:Well, I think everyone is – I obviously grew up with a very religious framing.
Guest:But I think –
Guest:I continue to have religious framing, but it shifted for me where I kind of felt like I had kind of an opening where I was like, oh, I spent a lot of my life thinking about hell, but I never really thought about the idea of heaven.
Guest:I never really thought about – like I thought a lot about punishment, and I don't think a lot about mercy.
Guest:And what does it look like to actually just have a merciful view?
Guest:So, you know, for me to say porn is addicting, and I understand that that could hurt some people.
Guest:Like I actually don't want –
Guest:sex workers to be upset.
Guest:I don't want them to feel that.
Marc:That's what you're afraid of alienating.
Guest:Not the entire Muslim world.
Guest:But, you know, in the end... Well, look, I don't want Muslims to be upset either.
Guest:I constantly don't want anyone to be.
Guest:But then it's also like, and, you know, there is this part of me that pushes myself to be like, cool, but, you know, is there an offering that I could have?
Guest:And there are enough people...
Guest:who I've intersected with that are like, hey, I know you get a lot of shit for this or, oh, hey, you know, whatever, but thanks for putting that out there.
Guest:That makes it all worth it.
Marc:Oh, yeah, of course.
Marc:But I also think this idea that you don't want to offend anybody, you know, in light of your sort of rudderless behavior is a through line of the whole series.
Marc:And my life.
Marc:Right.
Marc:And it's like it makes you, like, you know, ultimately punchable by the end of –
Marc:You know, the second season.
Marc:You're like, just like, what's this worm going to take a stand for anything?
Guest:But, you know, I really didn't want to also.
Guest:Yeah, like the part of me was driven, too, to be like, I'm not going to like, you know, make this show where I'm just like the hero all the time.
Guest:You know, so there was a part of me, too, that was like, no, I'm going to put out there stuff that has historically tortured me or stuff that has historically bothered me.
Guest:Sure.
Guest:And obviously we heighten a lot of it for the show.
Guest:Sure.
Guest:But, you know, it feels like a more useful offering of something that I could do in something like a fucked up comedy.
Marc:Well, yeah.
Marc:And also like there's just sort of that struggle with, you know, personal principles and sort of, you know, moral responsibility, you know, in light of, you know, your struggle with God.
Marc:You have all this this other stuff going on that you're it's it's compulsive behavior or it's impulsive behavior.
Marc:It's totally self-serving.
Marc:Yes.
Marc:And then like, you know, when you sort of trying to kind of get away with it.
Marc:And then like when you finally marry somebody in this, well, look, the moment where the shake doesn't punch you and you don't seem to really learn anything.
Marc:It's kind of a rough cliffhanger, that one.
Marc:And then, you know, you come back a year later looking like you lost some weight and you're a little more cynical and you've got an edge to you.
Marc:You're a little more broken and fuck you-ish.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Nothing's ever going to work out.
Marc:I blew it all.
Marc:Let's make some money.
Guest:I want you to do like our synopses.
Guest:Like just, I want you to break like, like just like the little paragraph under the thing.
Guest:I can do that.
Guest:You want the blurbs?
Marc:If you could, if we could do a collab on the blurbs.
Marc:This wormy Arab who refuses to take responsibility for anything is at it again.
Guest:That would be a great, you know, Rami, wormy Arab, season four, just wormy Arab.
Marc:Watch him worm out of everything and not think anything's his fault.
Marc:It's amazing.
Marc:He's like a magician, even though that's against his religion.
Marc:Look, like, sadly, I relate.
Marc:I mean, I'm a comedian.
Marc:You know, like, the last one, like...
Marc:Well, I mean, let's go back though.
Marc:So you got, you didn't, you weren't in Queens long?
Guest:Yeah, we were just, just until I think, you know, seven or eight.
Guest:Then we went to Jersey.
Marc:But your grandparents still there?
Marc:Someone is?
Guest:My grandpa's there and my uncle's there.
Marc:And they eat at those places?
Marc:They go to those bakeries?
Guest:We do all of it.
Guest:Yeah, of course.
Guest:That's great.
Guest:Yeah, yeah.
Guest:I mean, now I live in Brooklyn too.
Guest:And so that's just a regular, regular stopover.
Marc:Where, to your grandparents?
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:So what part of Jersey?
Marc:I grew up in Rutherford.
Marc:It's North Jersey.
Marc:That's right where my roots are from.
Marc:No way.
Marc:Pompton Lakes.
Guest:Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Marc:So, you know, like, was the milk barn there when you grew up?
Marc:Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Marc:Yeah, dude.
Marc:That ice cream spot.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Exactly.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Yeah, that was there when my mother was a kid.
Marc:My mother grew up in Pompton Lakes.
Guest:Yeah, that was like we would go there.
Guest:That was like a date spot when you got a car.
Guest:Right.
Guest:You know, because it's a little parking lot.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:So it's a big parking lot.
Guest:That was like 15 minutes away.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:You just like get right on, you know, right on Route 3.
Marc:My grandfather had a hardware store in Haskell.
Marc:You know, up in the hills there, like Butler, Haskell, by Plunk and Lex, where all the, I can't call them hill people anymore, but I don't know what's going on up there.
Marc:But he had a hardware store there and an appliance store.
Marc:Wow.
Marc:So that's like my people were from where you grew up-ish.
Marc:Dude.
Marc:I was alive when they built Paramus Park.
Marc:It was like the Paramus Park Mall.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Like it was a big deal.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Because I remember my grandmother, because I'd go visit them.
Marc:I grew up in New Mexico, but they, you know, I was in Jersey.
Marc:We were in Wayne, too, when I was like six.
Marc:Oh, of course.
Yeah.
Marc:But I remember when they built the mall, it was like the first food court.
Marc:Yeah, that was big.
Marc:And my grandmother's like, they have food from all over the world.
Guest:It's like Taco Bell.
Marc:It was a hero place.
Guest:It was the first time I had Greek food, and I was just amazed by it.
Guest:At the mall?
Guest:The best.
Guest:Well, we grew up with the mall being built, which is now this big mall, the American Dream, they call it.
Guest:Was Primus Park gone?
Guest:no premise premise is still there but american dream is like on it's like on the way to new york on on route three and it's this is this big development that had been was being built the whole time i was growing up it took 25 years or something to build trump was an investor he pulled out someone else invested they pulled out uh and it finally just got finished yeah and it's really yeah yeah and it's uh i think it's the second biggest mall in america wow is willowbrook gone willowbrook's there
Guest:Still there?
Guest:Well, Willowbrook was cool because it was, I remember Willowbrook would be open on Sundays because there's a bunch of Bergen County stuff that was like blue laws.
Guest:So they don't open, they're closed on Sundays.
Guest:So if you needed something on Sunday, you go to Willowbrook.
Guest:Oh, right.
Guest:Oh, really?
Guest:That was a bit, yeah.
Marc:That was like classic old mall with the fountain.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:They just chose Jersey because is it an Arabic community there?
Guest:There is, but we lived probably, that was in Patterson, so we were like 20 minutes from there.
Guest:So we'd go shop there, hang there, but our town wasn't, there weren't really Arabs in our town.
Marc:Patterson was big, a lot of Egyptians?
Guest:Big.
Guest:I think it's number two in America behind, or maybe two or three.
Guest:I think it's Dearborn, Michigan, and then I think it's Patterson.
Guest:Really?
Guest:And then maybe right after Patterson is Queens.
Guest:For Egyptians?
Guest:Yeah.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:And both your parents are Egyptian?
Marc:Both, yeah.
Marc:So, and your uncle, is that a real guy?
Marc:He's an amalgamation of a few uncles.
Marc:Yeah?
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:That's a good character.
Guest:He's fun.
Guest:But in the series, he's Palestinian.
Guest:Yeah, so we kind of played it off of our casting, like our actors that we had.
Guest:You know, the woman who plays my mom in the show is Palestinian.
Guest:In real life?
Marc:In real life.
Marc:What's her name?
Marc:She's great in succession, too.
Marc:She's so good.
Guest:Yeah, my best.
Guest:Yeah, she's great.
Guest:She's like an actor of our generation.
Guest:I mean, we were so thrilled we got her.
Guest:You knew her growing up?
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:And she's really, I mean, yeah, she's been in some really great films, especially in the Arab world.
Guest:But also, you know, yeah, she's a legend.
Guest:I mean, I was so happy that we got her.
Marc:And the father, where'd you get that guy?
Guest:Huge Egyptian film star.
Guest:Yeah, it feels like that.
Guest:He's... Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Guest:Like... So were they just excited as hell to do this, or...?
Guest:I think they got the script, and they were just... What they were excited about was it was the kind of thing that was talking about what everyone talked about, but didn't air in the Middle East.
Guest:And I think one of my favorite things about the show has been...
Guest:On a level, you could think, okay, it's kind of describing something to an American audience or whatever, but it does really well in the Arab world, even if some people are pissed about it.
Marc:American Arab world or international Arab world?
Guest:International, yeah.
Guest:When I go to Saudi, people are stopping me, and they're like, dude, I love your show.
Guest:Or, hey man, why did you do that?
Guest:What do they primarily have a problem with generally?
Guest:Sex.
Guest:Sex.
Guest:But it's, you know, and that was always the thing for me too, which is like the interesting thing making the show is I knew if I was playing a drug dealer who, you know, shot people, it would be less sensitive than just jerking off to porn.
Guest:And I always thought that was a really interesting thing that jerking off to porn would feel so violent.
Marc:But jerking off to porn and having sex with Jews.
Marc:You go out of your way that you had sex with two Jews.
Yeah.
Marc:One.
Marc:No, two.
Marc:Was it two?
Marc:Anna Conkle.
Marc:She played a Jew, right?
Marc:Yeah, that's right.
Guest:You know my show better than me.
Guest:You've watched it probably more recently than I have.
Guest:Yeah, yeah.
Guest:I worked with her.
Guest:I loved her.
Guest:I love Anna Conkle.
Guest:She's the best.
Guest:Yeah, she really was awesome.
Marc:Well, that's a funny scene.
Marc:Because that's what people assume, that idea that...
Marc:And I've always said it, too.
Marc:But I was ill-informed, really, in that there are Muslims that are just like Jews, like non-practicing Jews.
Marc:And I think there's fewer of those.
Guest:And I think this is kind of the conversation of our generation, which is like, are we going to shift into just being cultural?
Guest:Because we really hold on to it.
Guest:I was just fasting Ramadan this past month, and I was in Saudi, and then I was in Chicago.
Guest:Why'd you go to Saudi?
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:My wife is from there.
Guest:So her family's there.
Guest:And so we went and we spent time with them.
Guest:And then I had to go to Chicago.
Marc:But see, the thing is, that's not casual, right?
Marc:Because like... I know, it's a casual thing.
Marc:No, rewind me wherever.
Marc:Well, I mean, just in that one scene, even when your cousin goes to your hotel room in Egypt, I assume that that type of...
Marc:sort of moral police is real or no?
Guest:So the hotel room Egypt stuff is real for people who are Egyptian citizens.
Guest:Yeah, they'll, you know, they'll look for that.
Guest:It's really interesting.
Guest:You can't have a woman in your room if you're not married.
Guest:If you are Egyptian.
Guest:So it's like they'll be like, oh, this person is Egyptian.
Guest:Like, let's see.
Guest:Like, I want to see the marriage certificate to America.
Guest:They're not going to say anything, which is, you know, a hypocrisy.
Marc:But is that what is that?
Marc:Is that part of some sort of mild Sharia law or is it part of?
Guest:Yeah, I would say like you said it actually pretty correctly, like moral police.
Guest:They actually will call it like moral police.
Guest:at least in Saudi they called it moral police but interestingly there's no more moral police in Saudi like Saudi now is a whole other world the wild west I mean they they'll like pay you to wear shorts at this point that's funny it's a whole other world they're wearing dresses it's crazy it's crazy they can play music in
Guest:their car now well you know the um between women driving it's really fun being there now because it's it's a total different page turn and it's funny to be there and have people in Saudi be like dude like what's going on with the abortion situation in America that sounds rough because you can get an abortion anywhere in Saudi yeah you know like you don't want to be a public about it or whatever but
Marc:totally like you go to a doctor and get that taken care of it'll be way smoother than in any of these well i imagine that like that that places that you have that are sort of culturally insulated and and you know are you know in in and respect specific genetic lines i would i would think that they don't want those kind of mistakes yeah right they don't want you know unwanted kids they don't you know what i mean i don't know in my
Guest:No, I mean, it's an interesting thought.
Guest:I don't even know if that's the basis upon which they do it, but I think there's actually... Well, it's not a progressive place.
Marc:So, I mean, obviously there's something within, you know, a loophole within their religious beliefs that are allowing it.
Guest:But I think this is the debate that's happening, which is like, you know, what is progress?
Guest:You know, like in terms of saying something's progressive or not progressive, it also is like, well, what kind of quality of life and what values are important to you, right?
Guest:And so...
Guest:If you kind of feel the level of financial capitalist stress that happens in this society and what people are experiencing here versus if you hung out in Saudi for three weeks, I bet you'd kind of be like, whoa, everyone's a bit happier here.
Guest:There's a different energy.
Guest:Doesn't everyone have a billion dollars?
Guest:Not everyone, but there's certain basic things that are really taken care of.
Guest:Was that racist?
Guest:No, I mean, they're doing well.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:No, no, no.
Guest:I mean, I think everything you're saying is valid, but it's like, you know, if you're just like a construction worker there, or even if you're someone who's like a maid at someone's house, you have health care.
Marc:You know what I mean?
Guest:These are things that there are really, really core things that are just handled on a real human level.
Guest:And so I've been really.
Marc:That makes all the difference, dude.
Marc:No, genuinely.
Marc:I mean, even when I go to Canada, I'm like, it's not up here.
Marc:Whatever that American psychic capitalist cancer is.
Guest:There's something.
Marc:It's not up there.
Marc:It's not up there.
Marc:It has to do with healthcare.
Guest:Well, I think healthcare is a big piece of it.
Guest:And also just like the way people look out for each other in a society.
Guest:And so I definitely like recoil at progressive versus non-progressive because it's like, what's your barometer?
Guest:Oh, you mean in terms of defining something as progressive politically?
Marc:That's a regressive society.
Marc:That's a closed off society.
Marc:Well, what are the metrics?
Marc:Right.
Marc:Well, it's sad that I had to use that word in relation to my country.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:That, you know, a progressive battle politically is trying to maintain the right of women to have control over their body.
Marc:That's happening here.
Marc:Yeah, that's happening here.
Marc:And you're saying in Saudi, it's like, oh, yeah, it's not.
Guest:No, it's not happening.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:You know, and obviously it's like, you know, then you say, OK, Saudi women couldn't drive up until four years ago.
Guest:100 percent, you know.
Guest:But I think what you'll find when you speak with people there is they feel like, you know, every issue is cherry picked where they're kind of like, can we just look at the whole.
Guest:Can we look at the whole picture?
Guest:Well, nobody knows how to do that here.
Guest:There's no whole picture.
Guest:There's no whole picture.
Guest:Everything here is a Marvel movie.
Guest:We're good.
Guest:A Marvel movie or clickbait.
Guest:Yeah, truly.
Guest:Everything is just so, you know, it's so sensational and it's so wiped out.
Guest:So you're there and you're like, yeah, we know we have problems.
Guest:We know we have stuff we're working out, but why are we viewed...
Guest:as barbarians, you know, because that's the framing that we grew up with here, which is basically everyone over there, oh, they tie up their women, they can't drive, they can't this, they can't that, and we're good.
Guest:But when you, like, zoom out and you really look at, you know, a whole worldview and, again, get into things like quality of life, get into how people are taken care of and where they are and...
Guest:you know, that there is something really beautiful to spiritual unity, even if there's stuff that is oppressive or there is, you know, but that's any, any system is going to have its joys and its oppressions.
Guest:And I think anyone who lives here is going to experience what the joys and the oppressions are.
Guest:So I think that, you know, when you really start to have a real world view, none of it's convenient.
Guest:None of it, you don't get to live anywhere and feel good just about being there.
Guest:You know, it doesn't, it's not going to cut it.
Marc:But also the idea, the whole idea of perception is important and how, you know, just what we get, what anybody gets on a day to day basis.
Marc:How much do I know about anything?
Marc:Yes.
Marc:You know what I mean?
Marc:You're just kind of putting together bits and pieces of bullshit that, you know, you haven't done any homework.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:You just kind of it's everything's clickbait or hearsay or, you know, a picture you saw or a news article you read.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:You know, like it's weird.
Marc:I don't know if I ever saw the Saudis as barbaric.
Marc:I just saw them as some sort of strange, insulated, you know, wealthy aristocracy that didn't abide by laws.
Marc:I understand.
Guest:Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Guest:Well, it's funny.
Guest:No, I don't.
Guest:I wasn't saying you did, but it's interesting.
Guest:I'll feel it on stage like I was doing.
Guest:I was trying a new stand up bit.
Guest:It was like last month.
Guest:I was just, I think I was talking something about Netflix and, like, how many shows there are.
Guest:And I was just kind of, like, riffing that, you know, they're just going to, at a certain point, make a really compelling show about a pedophile because they'll just run out of stuff.
Guest:And, like, you'll root for the pedophile.
Guest:You know, like, that's where we've gotten to in sensationalism.
Guest:Oh, yeah.
Guest:And so I'm kind of talking about this premise.
Guest:I'm trying to figure it out.
Guest:It's like, and I just riff.
Guest:Are there any pedophiles here?
Guest:And people are laughing, you know.
Guest:And then probably, like, six minutes later in the set, I'm like, yeah, my wife is Saudi.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:And the level of silence to my wife is Saudi versus the laughter around like, are there any pedophiles here?
Guest:The fact that I said the word Saudi was so triggering and I feel it everywhere that I go.
Guest:There's this level of like, whoa, you know, like that.
Marc:What's going on?
Guest:That's so weird.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Yeah.
Guest:Is that that's dark?
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:You know, and I feel that everywhere.
Guest:And yeah, it's the unpacking of it in the zooming out of it.
Guest:You realize, yeah, how programmed we've been.
Marc:Sure.
Marc:So when do you start doing comedy in New Jersey?
Marc:How does that unfold?
Guest:um i was like i i started the first thing i ever really saved up to buy was a video camera i really liked making things and so i would make little videos i have these like short films that i used to make and like i would shoot stuff and then you know you go to your grandparents house you got to be there for like nine hours yeah this little computer it had windows movie maker on it and i used to just
Guest:sit and make things and not talk to anyone.
Guest:Right.
Guest:You know, that was my way of just dealing with the family.
Guest:Everyone's loud.
Guest:Like, let me just go in the room and edit.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:So I really liked that.
Guest:And so I started writing little shorts and stuff, especially when I got to high school.
Guest:Then I started acting in them.
Guest:And then
Guest:We were really, you know, a buddy of mine who I still work with, Jonathan Braylock, he had went to NYU and he was like, oh, there's these guys doing sketches.
Guest:We've been making videos in high school.
Guest:Let's do sketches.
Guest:And he was looking like Derek Comedy, like Donald Glover.
Guest:Those guys were still just leaving NYU.
Guest:And the Britannic guys, Nick Kocher and Brian Mackley, you know, those guys were doing stuff.
Guest:And we were really inspired.
Guest:So we started doing sketch comedy videos.
Guest:And then I remember I went to UCB.
Guest:Right when I got my permit, I think I was like 17.
Guest:I drive over there and I saw Jenny Slate's one woman show.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:And she would do this thing where she would come out, do a character and then she'd change and play a video she made and she went back and forth.
Guest:And I was, I want to do that.
Guest:Right.
Guest:Like that, you know, and, and I started doing that and tell her, I, you know, it's so funny.
Guest:I haven't gotten to tell her yet.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:I haven't been in a room with her yet to be like, you made me be like, I want to do that.
Guest:But I had been really into that and the sketch world.
Guest:And so that's how I kind of got into it.
Guest:I started doing sketch shows in New York when I was like 17 or 18.
Guest:And then it slowly transitioned into stand-up.
Guest:But I was way too afraid to do stand-up at first.
Guest:I didn't like the idea of just being on stage by myself.
Marc:So you were working at UCB?
Marc:People's Improv Theater.
Guest:Okay.
Guest:And UCB.
Guest:Sometimes we go to the Magnet, that kind of stuff.
Marc:I don't know that place.
Marc:Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Marc:That all happened, you know, after me, I think.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Like, I remember when UCB got there and they were kind of housed in this old strip bar.
Marc:It was the first UCB.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Theater.
Marc:And I just remember being told that sometimes Orthodox guys would come thinking that the strip bar was still there.
Yeah.
Marc:They always have weird locations.
Marc:Matt Walsh lived in an apartment above it at that time.
Marc:But the big one over by the supermarket.
Marc:Under the Gristides.
Guest:That was my dream.
Guest:I remember even getting a management.
Guest:That basement.
Guest:I remember getting a manager and he was like, yeah, film, TV.
Guest:And I was like, oh, do you think you could just get me a regular show at UCB?
Guest:That's all I cared about.
Guest:Without going through the classes?
Guest:Well, I did the class.
Guest:I got kicked out of one of the classes because I was going to school at Rutgers in Newark.
Guest:And I was working at the Apple store, and then I was going to classes at UCB.
Guest:I was always late.
Guest:So I'd show up like 30 minutes late, and they had some policy.
Guest:It's like if you go late three times, you get kicked out.
Guest:So I got kicked out of two of the classes.
Guest:So then I needed, you know, I was trying to lean on, really crunch three arts to, you know, push me through the door.
Guest:Becky.
Guest:Oh, Becky's your guy?
Guest:I was.
Guest:I met Becky when I was 19.
Guest:Oh, yeah.
Marc:You used to be my guy.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:For a long time.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Yeah, and then kind of you end up like sort of like, is this working out?
Guest:You know, we change, you know, like.
Guest:It's hard to be with who you were with early, you know, it's just like because you change so much.
Marc:Yeah, well, it feels weird for both of you.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Because, well, you know, you're doing fine.
Marc:But I was just sort of like, well, I guess I'll just have him around, see what happens.
Marc:It becomes like a weird, bad marriage.
Marc:But we're okay now.
Marc:We talk to him.
Marc:So that's how it starts.
Marc:So you do stand-up.
Marc:So you were never like, stand-up wasn't your jam, really.
Guest:When I moved to LA, I didn't have any sketch going on.
Marc:You moved here?
Guest:Yeah, I moved here when I was 20.
Marc:Oh, so.
Guest:So when I came over here, it was like I was doing sketch in New York probably for three years.
Guest:Then when I came over here, I started getting into stand-up and getting up, yeah.
Guest:Where?
Guest:Dude, I got up a lot at, like, Flappers.
Guest:That was, like, my first spot.
Guest:And then I started going up at the Laugh Factory.
Guest:I would only do... Oh, so that's legit?
Guest:So you weren't doing alt rooms?
Guest:I would do alt rooms.
Guest:Yeah, definitely.
Guest:The Silver Lake, the bars, all that stuff.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:But you would go up at the Laugh Factory?
Guest:Yeah, Jamie was really nice to me.
Guest:Jamie, like, put me up pretty quick.
Marc:Yeah.
Guest:Yeah, he...
Guest:I never even got in at the store.
Guest:I only got up at the factory.
Marc:Yeah, I never went through the system at the store.
Guest:There was that Israeli-Egyptian bonding you did with Jamie?
Guest:We solved it one night.
Guest:You did?
Guest:Yeah, there was one night we kind of talked out the whole plan, and then he was just kind of like, get up there.
Marc:That sounds like the most exhausting evening of anyone.
Marc:I don't think I've ever talked to Jamie.
Marc:Buddy, buddy.
Marc:Yeah, that's where I leave the conversation.
Marc:I never worked there just because of that.
Marc:Buddy, I'm like, I got to go.
Marc:I don't know what's...
Marc:I don't know where those audiences come from.
Marc:I don't know where the money comes from.
Guest:By the way, like between the factory and flappers, it was like, I felt like I was just doing a lot of time at the rooms that like, I didn't see the other comp.
Guest:You know what I mean?
Guest:Like people would be at the store and doing other stuff.
Guest:And I was just like, I got up there a lot.
Guest:At a certain point, I started getting up at the improv a lot.
Guest:Yeah.
Marc:Yeah, I just go to the store because I have weird resentments and pet peeves about the other places that go way back that I refuse to let go of.
Marc:And it only matters to me.
Marc:No one else gives a fuck.
Marc:No one else.
Marc:I'm like, I'm not working any improv.
Marc:I'm not making them a fucking dime.
Marc:They didn't help me.
Marc:So that's not really.
Marc:Not really.
Marc:All it does.
Marc:It's my thing.
Marc:No one remembers.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:And I'm not hurting.
Marc:I'm not hurting their business at all.
Marc:It's like, yeah, I'll show them.
Marc:Fuck them.
Marc:Not selling one drink for them.
Marc:I mean, you're very religious in that sense.
Marc:You have your principles.
Marc:You really stick to them.
Marc:My principles founded deeply on resentment over past slights.
Guest:Many would say it lives in the realm of the unseen, and you just hold on to it.
Marc:It's mystical.
Guest:You've got your cross on your chest that no one sees.
Marc:I do.
Marc:Yeah, and I'm going to stand by it.
Marc:I'll occasionally do a charity show there.
Guest:That's the only thing that transcends.
Marc:That's it.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:It's for charity.
Marc:It's for the dogs.
Marc:It's for the kids.
Marc:But what are you doing otherwise?
Marc:What was the plan?
Marc:You did some TV.
Marc:You did a TV series.
Marc:What did you do?
Guest:The thing that moved me to L.A.
Guest:was I got booked onto this Nick at Night sitcom with Scott Baio.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:And so it moved my... Are you what did it to him?
Marc:Are you the one that pushed him over the edge?
Marc:Is that you?
Marc:Tell me about the shut up you fucking Arab dude.
Marc:Did that happen?
Guest:There was the, I look, he was honestly so kind to me.
Guest:Like it was, it was, he, I think it was before he snapped.
Guest:No, I mean, look, he was, I was, you know, we were working the day that Obama got reelected and he just kind of walked in and looked at everybody and he was like, you guys happy?
Guest:You happy?
Guest:You're going to see where this country's going.
Guest:Oh yeah.
Guest:All right.
Guest:All right.
Guest:Let's shoot.
Guest:And you know, and he didn't want to talk about it.
Guest:He was genuinely, you know, cause he, you know, he's like, you're all like fucking liberals and this and that.
Marc:I'm not going to say Jews because Rami's here, but you know what I'm saying?
Guest:He was, you know, but other than that, he was very kind to me.
Guest:I mean, he— Professional.
Guest:I mean, he was really good at his job, you know, and it was a cool experience.
Guest:Mark Curry was on that show.
Marc:Oh, Mark Curry.
Guest:So a thing that really launched me doing a lot of stand-up was, you know, I told Curry on set, I was like, I want to do more stand-up, but I'm doing sketch.
Guest:And he was like, where do you go up?
Guest:And I was like, I have a show, you know, Thursday of Flappers.
Guest:And he goes, all right—
Guest:Uh, what time?
Guest:And I tell him, and then literally that clockwork, it's like, I'm about to go up on stage and you just pull like a, it's like a movie, just this whiff of cigar smoke as like the door to flappers opens and Curry comes in in a long trench coat and he goes, let's see, you know, and he sits in the back and I go up and I'm like trying premises out of, you know, back when he had a little juice, I guess still.
Guest:He, well, he had just gotten on this show.
Guest:I mean, he was, it wasn't like his Cooper juice, but he was just, you know, he was out and he was doing his thing and he was so, he was like laughing hard at half premises I had.
Guest:He was like, come open for me.
Guest:And so he started taking me on the road and, and that, you know, off of that show.
Guest:And he was really kind to me cause I would go, I would bomb.
Guest:I mean, I didn't know, I didn't have time.
Guest:I
Marc:He's sort of a good role model because he's kind of a long form guy.
Marc:And, you know, he maintains a tone.
Marc:Yes.
Marc:He's not going to go get him.
Marc:Yes.
Marc:You know, he's not a panderer.
Marc:No, he does his thing.
Guest:And so it was cool because I would, you know, do these shows.
Guest:And the first few, I definitely ate shit.
Guest:And he would just laugh.
Guest:You know, I'd come back and he'd be like, ha ha.
Guest:You know, and he gave me a pat on the back and he didn't care what I did because he'd go out and he would just reformat the whole room.
Guest:It didn't matter that I bombed.
Guest:He got up and now it's his show and he totally takes over.
Marc:That is the biggest trick to learn is that thing where, you know, you take whatever time is necessary to reformat the room.
Guest:He did so well.
Marc:Yeah, it's the best.
Marc:It's a real thing.
Marc:It's really about being grounded.
Marc:It's a talent.
Guest:I had this one, I remember I ate it and I felt guilty.
Guest:I was just like, man, I'm fucking up your shows.
Guest:And he's like, you gotta eat it, you know, to like figure it out kind of thing.
Guest:And I remember this one show, I definitely didn't have a good set.
Guest:And then he comes out and he like...
Guest:you know he's just quiet a little he's saying hey and then he sees this woman uh has this big purse on the table and he goes this purse this purse is so big it needs a movie yeah and then he picks it up and he goes the purse starring octavia butler and he like puts it on his like thing and he goes mama i'm leaving yeah and i'm taking the purse and he does this like movie trailer about a purse yeah
Guest:And it was the funniest thing I'd ever seen.
Guest:I was like, this is so good.
Guest:And the crowd is dying.
Guest:And it's like I never even went up.
Guest:And so we did like, I think on the third city I figured it out.
Guest:And you started doing the purse bit.
Guest:I started doing it.
Guest:I just stole his bits.
Guest:And then after the show, he'd be like, why did you take my clothes?
Marc:It just worked, man.
Guest:Dude, I just felt the bad.
Guest:No, it was great being on the road because you have no friends.
Guest:So it's like you go back to the hotel and you're like, I can't do this shit again tomorrow.
Guest:I can't do this at the next city.
Guest:And so I think I went, you know, on the road with him.
Guest:You mean bomb?
Guest:Just eat it.
Guest:And then I would come home at the hotel room and I would just sit up and write.
Guest:I probably left LA with like,
Guest:seven minutes and came back with like 25 that I really liked.
Guest:And so he really helped me because by the end of those, I found what I think would have taken me like years to find, you know, cause, and especially two black rooms.
Guest:Sure.
Guest:They're not, they're not waiting for your little like quick,
Guest:quip or whatever.
Guest:Like, who are you?
Guest:You better deliver.
Guest:Who are you?
Guest:What are you talking about?
Guest:And that really helped me.
Guest:Like by the end of doing shows with Mark, I felt like I knew, you know, what I was saying and who I was on stage, which was really fun.
Guest:That's good to get a quick course in that.
Guest:He really, yeah, I feel very indebted to him.
Marc:Yeah, I haven't seen him around in a while.
Marc:There was a minute there where he was coming back around trying to get something going, but then he just went back into the shadows somewhere.
Marc:I don't know.
Marc:He goes out with Cat a lot.
Marc:Him and Cat do these big shows.
Marc:I just interviewed Cat, yeah.
Marc:Yeah, he really pulled one over on me.
Marc:I got the well-behaved Cat.
Marc:I don't know what you're talking about.
Marc:I've read over 10,000 books.
Marc:It was pretty great.
Marc:It was a really great interview.
Marc:I don't know if any of it is true.
Marc:But it was great.
Marc:It was like an amazing performance.
Marc:I love that.
Marc:Yeah, just sort of like him going against type.
Marc:It was him doing his WTF interview.
Marc:Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Marc:You know, like on the level.
Yeah.
Marc:No anger.
Marc:He's not going to raise his voice.
Marc:He's like complimenting you on your shirt.
Marc:Totally.
Marc:I'm like comedy.
Marc:I'm like, really?
Marc:Oh, okay.
Marc:Just totally.
Marc:I knew it was happening.
Marc:He's like never seen.
Marc:Yeah, right.
Marc:I knew it was happening.
Marc:Maybe he has, but I mean, I just knew, I knew what was happening and there was nothing to do about it.
Marc:There's nothing I could do about it.
Marc:And I realized it was also very entertaining.
Marc:So I just let it go, you know?
Guest:Oh my God.
Marc:What am I going to do?
Marc:I'm just happy to have him.
Guest:The second I get in the car, I'm listening to that.
Marc:It's something.
Marc:So, but from there you go, what brings you back to New York though?
Oh,
Guest:Well, I was in L.A.
Guest:for a while.
Guest:I basically did this show with Scott and Mark, and then I was doing these road dates with Mark.
Marc:The Nickelodeon show.
Marc:The Nickelodeon show, yeah.
Guest:Then that ended.
Marc:Doing the road with Curry.
Guest:How are your parents dealing with all this shit?
Guest:They're kind of, you know, I had just dropped out of college before I got the road.
Marc:From Rutgers?
Marc:Yeah.
Guest:That's where my dad went.
Guest:Yeah, it's, you know, fucking Jersey institution, right?
Guest:And so my dad's like, why would you drop out of Rutgers?
Guest:What are you doing?
Guest:What were you studying at Rutgers?
Guest:Political science and econ.
Guest:But I was going, I was like doing, again, I was doing all this comedy stuff in the city.
Guest:And then during my second year, I started taking acting classes in the city.
Guest:So it was just, I never.
Guest:Where at?
Guest:William Esper Studio.
Guest:Oh, yeah.
Guest:And so I didn't, you know, I was just never a good student.
Guest:So I just left.
Guest:So I come out here, I'm doing the show and my dad's just like, the show's going to end and you got to go back to school.
Guest:You know, it was that kind of energy.
Guest:He didn't even, it was just like, they were proud, but also.
Guest:That you're on television.
Guest:But it didn't seem real.
Guest:That's not a job that someone does.
Guest:Well, they didn't, it's not a job someone does, but they didn't, you know, real, like they didn't think it was dependable, you know, and then that show ended.
Guest:And then I spent a couple of years just doing standup.
Guest:And I think I did a Colbert set.
Guest:That made my parents feel like I had really broken into the industry, which is funny because I had a five minute Colbert set versus series regular on like a show.
Guest:But there was something about they were like, oh, you know, Stephen Colbert.
Guest:Like that's you're good.
Marc:Yeah.
Guest:Like Colbert likes you.
Guest:You're good.
Guest:You're like that.
Guest:That's just like it's such a parent talk because it's something they know.
Marc:Yeah.
Guest:So it felt like secure on a level.
Guest:So it took it took probably like, yeah, that was like five years into since I'd left my house.
Guest:Five, six years since I left my family's house.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:Um, but you want to take the acting seriously.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:I mean, I was, you know, auditioning, doing all that, but it didn't, it was, I wasn't booking a lot of roles.
Guest:I booked this like Mr. Robot arc when that was exciting for me.
Guest:But then, yeah, at that time I was really on the road.
Guest:Uh, at first with Mark, then I was doing my own shows, but then I was opening for Gerard and I was opening for Mo Ammer.
Guest:and getting more time there and just building my hour.
Guest:And then it kind of like, you know, my buddy Ari Kacher, who had written on Gerard's show, we were doing, you know, we would do shows together, whatever, and then we kind of started saying, okay, like, let's figure out a show.
Guest:And that started in that downtime, you know.
Marc:And Gerard is sort of, he became sort of a mini mogul very quickly.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:So you knew it was possible.
Marc:Yes.
Marc:And that, you know, the crowd you were running with were doers.
Marc:You know, you never got into this sort of like, just I'm going to be on the road for three years.
Marc:You know, there was always sort of a bigger purpose.
Yeah.
Guest:Yeah, and it really felt like, you know, even from when I was leaving high school, we saw—we were, again, like, really inspired by the Derek Comedy guys.
Guest:We were just like, yo, these guys just make stuff.
Guest:They put it on YouTube.
Guest:They get views, and they're opening doors.
Guest:So that—when I came to L.A., that was my whole thing.
Guest:But did you do YouTube?
Guest:We did, yeah.
Guest:I mean, we weren't—we didn't ever, you know—it was funny, actually, like—
Guest:there was one video we had that had like 10,000 views and that was like heat, you know?
Guest:Like at the time, it's like, whoa, you got to do 10,000 views.
Guest:You know, like, you know, it felt like something when you're that age, you know?
Guest:I mean, Becky off that, right?
Guest:Like off kind of nothing, but also like a twinkle of something.
Marc:Becky who knows nothing about anything like that.
Guest:But then he's just like, hey, like.
Marc:Seems right.
Guest:I heard that.
Guest:But I definitely came to L.A.
Guest:with that.
Guest:And then I think when I started hanging with Ari, I was on the road with Jurat.
Guest:Yeah, there was that mentality for sure of like, yo, let's make stuff.
Guest:That's what we can do.
Guest:And so then we kind of hooked up with Ravi at A24.
Guest:And, you know, they were really just starting their TV business.
Guest:And so, yeah, it grew fast.
Guest:Yeah, and Mo's a funny guy.
Marc:Yes.
Marc:I've met him a couple times.
Guest:He's a lot.
Guest:But he's good.
Guest:He's very funny on the show.
Guest:I mean, yeah.
Guest:And then, you know, we did the first season and then I had written like a whole, you know, I'd been from opening for Mo, I was like, dude, I really want to do a show about, you know, undocumented dude in Texas.
Guest:Like, you know.
Guest:And so I'd put together this pitch.
Guest:For a show for him.
Guest:For him, yeah.
Guest:And then we went and pitched that.
Guest:That was like the first summer off of, like, I think Rami came out in May.
Guest:And then we, like, June or July, we went to Netflix and pitched Mo's show.
Marc:Of what, 20s?
Guest:Oh, yeah, May 2019.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:So what will I learn from watching Mo's show?
Marc:Dude, you're going to get that Texas flavor.
Marc:The Texas-Palestinian flavor?
Marc:The Texas-Palestinian flavor.
Marc:Oh, God.
Marc:All right.
Marc:Is there a lot of different type of religion in there or is it basically the same?
Guest:Well, look, he's Muslim.
Guest:But I would say the show is less religious.
Guest:You know, it's not.
Guest:It's a different.
Guest:Fish out of water show.
Guest:Different tone.
Guest:Palestinian out of water.
Guest:Palestinian in a different desert.
Guest:It's a different.
Guest:It's a whole.
Guest:And, you know, he's so funny.
Guest:He's funny.
Guest:Yeah, he's funny.
Guest:So, yeah, we got that going.
Guest:Yeah, kind of right on the hill.
Marc:So with Rami, though, that's not Netflix.
Guest:No, Hulu.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:So so we.
Guest:Yeah, it's cool to.
Guest:Why that decision at that time?
Guest:They stepped up.
Guest:They were just like, we'll make the show.
Guest:I think it was, you know, we it was a whole process to get Rami up and, you know, through the door because they were like.
Guest:Because I think, you know, we had A24 hadn't done a bunch of TV.
Guest:Gerard had done the multicam, you know, and Ari, they had done a multicam thing and we were working on it together.
Guest:But it was like, no one trusted us, you know.
Guest:And then I think after the first season of Rami, they got excited.
Guest:So we went to Netflix and Netflix were just like, yeah, we'll do it.
Guest:You know, eight episodes.
Guest:Like they just, it was the days they were doing that.
Marc:They don't even do that anymore.
Guest:They just ordered it.
Guest:They didn't even read anything.
Guest:It was just off of what we said in the room.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:Because your show got so much attention?
Marc:Yeah.
Guest:They were like, we love this.
Guest:And we were like, I was like, cool.
Guest:You know, Mo's really funny in our show.
Guest:We want to do something with him that's totally different.
Guest:Rami has this like smaller, you know, even like what you were alluding to earlier.
Guest:It's like, we have a short film-esque quality to these episodes.
Guest:We're kind of zoning in on stuff.
Guest:And we're like, we want to make something in Texas that's broader.
Guest:You know, that feels a bit more like a sitcom, but it has...
Guest:you know, these bigger immigration themes, you know, Rami's kind of more personal and whatever.
Guest:This is like a bigger thing.
Guest:It's like literally undocumented people in Houston, but it's funny, you know, through Moe's lens.
Guest:And so, yeah, they were like, cool, we want a bigger comedy like that.
Marc:Well, I forgot, like Atlanta's the other show.
Marc:Yes, Atlanta, of course.
Marc:That Louis cut the path for.
Guest:Yes, 100%.
Guest:No, I've like many times been like, you know,
Guest:Dude, the erasure of... It's been so insane that you can't even watch Louis when the influence of all of that is in a lot of shows that people really like today.
Marc:Well, yeah.
Marc:It's very specific because not everyone can do it.
Marc:Whatever I was doing, certainly...
Marc:It was always a thing as a comic when I was coming up that you wanted a show built around you.
Marc:Right.
Marc:But to take it into your own hands.
Marc:And then, I mean, the two-edged sword of the Louis model was that, you know, he did it all on his own with money that, you know, he chose how to allot.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:So he produced it for cheap, which enabled him to keep doing it.
Marc:Yeah.
Guest:once that became established it'd be sort of like hey you don't need money yeah you know so that was the other thing that was the other that was double-edged sword i know that was the other thing there's only one louis i know but they're not going to give anybody money now dude it's so funny because i was like i was at this uh show and it was like this concert this like that thing or something and i was sitting with my wife and we were in a row and it's empty and and uh it was just the two of us yeah so one of the ushers is like rami dude
Guest:Wow, you bought the row, huh, just for you and your wife?
Guest:And I was like, and he was like, you got the big bucks.
Guest:I was like, no.
Guest:Like, my doctor friends make more money.
Guest:You don't even under, everyone's like, oh, you have a TV thing?
Marc:I'm like, no, no, no, this is like Hulu.
Marc:No, we don't, you know, that's not.
Marc:That's so funny.
Marc:The weird kind of success shame.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:I'm like, no, no, no.
Marc:I don't have any money.
Guest:You want to see my... No, no, this is more about, like, people not buying free Tibet tickets anymore.
Marc:Exactly.
Guest:This is a sad thing.
Guest:Yeah, this is an issue for Tibet.
Guest:But, you know, even the thing you're saying of, like, that dream of, yeah, being a comic and wanting a show around you, it wasn't... Like, I... Even in, you know, you've seen enough of our show to see, like...
Guest:this was something I fought for in the first season where there's like three episodes I'm not even in.
Guest:And then the more we do the show, I'm less in it.
Guest:And then even getting to work on Mo, like I have found out over the last four or five years, I much prefer not being in it all the time or not even being in it.
Guest:Like I really like the process of just like directing other actors and writing for them.
Guest:It's way more fun.
Marc:I'm not sure I want to do anything anymore.
Guest:Yeah.
Marc:That's the next, that's the next time.
Marc:Is that where, is that where I'm headed?
Marc:I can only hope that you have peace of mind enough
Marc:Or the desire to leave enough.
Marc:You know, I think it's a fantasy for me.
Marc:But no, I would imagine that would be more satisfying than sort of the repetition of acting and the process of doing that or building episodes around you to sort of direct.
Marc:And shape things and, you know, have a bigger job in a way that engages your creativity on more levels.
Guest:It's fun.
Guest:Yeah, it's fun.
Guest:And I really like, again, you know, the first thing I ever did was edit.
Guest:So I just like that.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:It's really fun for me.
Marc:So what was like, you know, how did you feel like I had a lot of guest stars on my show of one kind or another?
Marc:And I knew when I started my show that I would have to figure out how to act in a real way as me.
Marc:And I knew that I would take a hit the first season.
Marc:And I just, you know, it was a very mature sort of realization.
Marc:I was just going to say mature.
Marc:Yeah, I'm kind of going to suck.
Marc:Probably no one will watch anyways.
Marc:But maybe I'll learn how to do this.
Marc:So by the second season, you've got Academy Award winners.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:That you're in it with.
Marc:Like, I'm watching you with Mahersha Ali.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:And I'm like, how's he feeling about this, Ram?
Guest:Is he really in it?
Guest:Dude, he's so gracious.
Guest:It was just like, I was, yeah, there was that thing of, oh, shit, you know.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:the guy showing up, but he's so curious and cool.
Guest:And he had a ton of questions about the script and he was like, am I doing, he'd go to me like, is that what you want?
Guest:You know?
Guest:So he's so gracious.
Guest:So he's not trying to smoke you in the scene.
Guest:He's actually, he's, he's kind of just so emotionally intelligent.
Guest:He's reading the situation.
Guest:He's saying, this is my role in it.
Guest:And then how do I fit in with you?
Guest:He did great.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:He, and so it was really, uh, it was, yeah, just like,
Guest:It was a beautiful thing to do with him.
Guest:And that's another dude who was like, it was an emotional project for him because he was like, dude, you know, he used to have a longer screen name.
Guest:It was like Mahershala Shabazz something Ali.
Guest:Like he has a longer name that is eluding me right now.
Guest:So, but, but it, you know, he told me, you know,
Guest:He was on a show, and right after 9-11, they literally cut the number of episodes he was in.
Guest:They're like, it's a weird time right now.
Guest:So for him to go from that to playing an imam at a mosque and being on a set where we're like, oh, hey, we'll be back in five.
Guest:We're going to pray.
Guest:And, you know, that was a big thing for him.
Guest:And so that was really cool to share that with him.
Guest:He was like, I can't believe this is the arc of my, you know, career.
Marc:How many, like, Arab Americans were on the set in general?
Marc:Was that something you were aware of?
Marc:Because, like, when I did the Reservation Dogs, like, it's all Native.
Marc:It's almost all Native and they couldn't be more excited.
Guest:Yeah, a lot.
Guest:I mean, it's not, I wouldn't say it's an all, but like a lot of PAs, a lot of people in the writer's room, a lot of people in all parts of production.
Guest:You know, I would say we're probably like half-half.
Guest:And your family's good now with you?
Guest:You know,
Guest:This is the process of making the show, stand-up, whatever.
Guest:The best part of it is my family's only gotten closer.
Guest:That's been what's really cool.
Guest:They've learned how to take the hit.
Guest:Well, it's funny because I think we spent so much of our lives being in this place of like, what will people think?
Guest:What will this?
Guest:What will that?
Guest:And you kind of have this.
Guest:And again, early 2000s, I just remember the fear of...
Guest:You know, my parents losing friends after 9-11, my mom feeling weird.
Guest:And they totally became, you know, as I look back now, there were things that I think made them like socially reclusive on a level.
Guest:And they don't feel that way anymore.
Guest:And so I think even stuff that we've done on the show, I think has been processing for all of us.
Guest:And not that the show is straight up our life.
Guest:Again, like it's totally, you know, you know how it goes.
Guest:It goes through a writer's room.
Guest:It gets dramatized.
Guest:But I think there's a couple of emotional truths there that like me getting to do that and then us having real deep conversations about it.
Guest:I feel my parents, if I look at when I started doing comedy and then to now, like my parents went from being my parents to being my friends.
Guest:Like we're friends now.
Guest:That's good.
Guest:Which is really cool.
Marc:And, you know, how much – like how big was the writer's room?
Marc:Were you generating all the basic stories?
Marc:Because after a certain point, you know, I never know how that happens.
Marc:You know, my writer's room was a bit sluggish and old and white.
Marc:And, you know, which is a mistake in retrospect.
Marc:But –
Marc:Nothing wrong with the old and white.
Marc:It's just the sluggish.
Marc:You can't be sluggish.
Marc:I think it's all the problem, actually.
Marc:Really, to be honest.
Marc:But where were you generating stories from?
Marc:Because I saw some of them were in your stand-up.
Marc:Yes.
Marc:And I assume you didn't really fuck your cousin.
Marc:Maybe you did.
Marc:I did not.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:But you've talked about having a hot cousin.
Marc:Yes.
Marc:So there were some things that were in the standup and you were sort of like, let's just play that out.
Guest:The first season, so much of it's a standup.
Guest:I mean, even like we have this, you know, flashback episode to like young, my character when he's young and, you know, on 9-11.
Guest:And that was actually a movie idea that I had had.
Guest:And it was one of those, okay, like, I've only got...
Marc:That was so great, though, that they're talking to Osama.
Guest:That was a nightmare I used to have.
Guest:You know, and so shooting that, you know, because that kitchen looks a lot like my kitchen.
Guest:When we shot that scene, I had chills all over my body because it was lit the way it used to look in my head.
Guest:You know, I was like, there's always this like bluish glow like the TV's on and Osama's looking at me and he's hiding at my house.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:You know, because he thinks we're friends.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:And I have to tell him we're not.
Guest:you know that would be the nightmare i would have and so i i was like oh this would be an interesting thing to see in a movie because no one's talked about how much this impacted you know just being a kid but then we're doing a season and i'm like this is my only shot i'm throwing everything i've ever thought of is going into this right so the first season was very much like these are all the ideas i've been sitting on for years whether i thought it was stand-up or a movie or whatever it's all going in because i'm not you know i mean i don't know if i'm gonna get another swing
Guest:at this like you know like fuck it and then I'll just force myself to think of better ideas and you know whatever we'll get a room going so every year it kind of I think that kid was great though oh he was amazing he was amazing the kid was great he's just amazing dude he was a genius and he he came up to me and he was like hey I noticed you do this a lot like he like picked up a tick I did he was like I'm gonna do that and I was like whoa you know he was really yeah he's a little shallow naked yeah he's got that thing you know um
Guest:But yeah, every season we kind of... The writers always come out, see my hour, you know, and then we'll just kind of pull stuff from that and then bring it in, you know.
Guest:And I'm about to shoot my second special now, but since I put out my first special, I've cycled through like two and a half, three hours of material because I kind of felt like...
Guest:I just felt like I wanted, you know.
Guest:It's a long time ago already.
Guest:Yeah, I shot that special in 2019, so it's, yeah, it's like four years, but, you know, it's not that long, but I, yeah, I'm really happy with that special, but also I was like, oh, I want the next one to, I want to work, yeah, I just want to work through way more material before I shoot it.
Guest:Yeah?
Guest:Yeah, and so.
Guest:Like what, you're trying to push buttons again?
Guest:Well, I mean, you know, like the getting near the button you're not supposed to touch is just like my.
Marc:But it felt like that was that was an experience for it almost felt like you were witnessing like an experience for the Muslim community.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:To have.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:And people who were tolerant and interested could hang out.
Guest:Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Guest:Right.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:No, I mean, that's a great way to put it.
Guest:And I almost, in a way, feel the same about the show.
Guest:Yeah, for sure.
Guest:It's never like, hey, here, let me explain things to people who don't know.
Guest:It's like, oh, no, these are conversations I want to have from within the community.
Guest:That's why anytime the only insult that ever hurts me is when people are like, oh, you're just doing this for people who aren't us.
Guest:You're just trying to make white people laugh.
Guest:You're just trying to make America laugh or whatever.
Guest:And I'm like...
Guest:Bro, no, no, this is not, this is about our conversations that I think I could contribute something to.
Guest:Imperfectly, not perfect.
Guest:That's the only critique that ever like used to get under my skin where I just be like, ugh.
Marc:I don't think it feels that way at all.
Marc:I mean, I think that's just a slight, you know, from people who would rather keep it
Marc:To themselves.
Marc:What insult has gotten under your skin the most?
Marc:In my life?
Guest:Doing comedy.
Guest:Doing comedy?
Marc:What could be your life?
Marc:Oh, years ago, when I was starting out in Boston, I was very much angry and very aggressive in my approach.
Marc:And I got off stage and a guy who was like a publicist or had something to do with the local scene in Boston, you know, a guy, he comes up to me and he just goes, why comedy?
Marc:And I really, I didn't know how to answer him at that time.
Marc:I think like, you know, oddly, you know, the misuse of the word hack bugs the fuck out of me.
Marc:Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Marc:Because all these, you know, you know, bros and dumb shits call everything hack.
Marc:And it's like, no, you guys are the hacks.
Marc:You're the hacks.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:He's like, what is, you know, that drives me.
Guest:Well, I hated open mics.
Guest:Like I really tried to avoid them because I was, you know, you go and, and it would just be these strange jokes that didn't, I was like, this will never play in front of real humans.
Guest:Like this is, everyone in here is so desensitized to the comedy.
Guest:You're all trying to make each other laugh.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:But it's like, this joke doesn't,
Guest:It would never work with the general population.
Marc:Yeah, because it's got, it's like based on what, I mean, I, you know, we all have to deal with that to a certain degree as comics and what we draw from because our lives are pretty small in a way.
Marc:Yes.
Marc:Do you know what I mean?
Marc:I mean, we're like, I, you know, what am, what am I doing over here?
Marc:At least you got a wife.
Marc:You got kids yet?
Marc:No.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Want to.
Marc:I've had wives, but I mean, I have no kids.
Marc:But it gets to a point, it's like, what are you going to talk about?
Marc:And if your life is small and you're going to talk about yourself, I've been making a joke about it in my stand-up right now that my next special is going to be called Mark Maron, Unrelatable.
Yeah.
Marc:that's what I'm working towards.
Marc:I love that.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:But, uh, but I guess like, so these stories though, as you generate, like how did, cause it's weird.
Marc:You talk about shame and you talk about sex and we were talking about threesomes earlier, but given the nature of your disposition, uh,
Marc:There's no submissive stuff in there.
Marc:There's no episode where you get tied up by a chick.
Marc:The only time it happens is in this weird-ass moment with the Israeli diamond dealer.
Marc:When you're having a hard time getting it up or your character.
Marc:That's the thing.
Marc:Most people at this point would be like, you mean my character.
Marc:You named him you.
Marc:This is you.
Marc:I know.
Marc:Just a mistake.
Marc:But that scene was crazy.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Right?
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:But that was like a sexually charged, weird kind of, you know, this is the new sort of hard Rami on two levels, I guess.
Marc:But that's the one you're putting up for consideration, right?
Marc:Yeah, I think it's one of them, yeah.
Marc:That second episode, when you first go to Israel.
Marc:And you shot there.
Marc:Yeah, we did.
Marc:The whole season, most of it?
Guest:No, no, no, just that episode.
Guest:And it was, you know, we...
Guest:It was a great experience because it was like... Things were hot there, right?
Marc:When you were there, wasn't it crazy?
Marc:It's always crazy.
Guest:No, it was particularly, yeah.
Guest:So the part that was great was working with this Palestinian crew there who they read the script and they were just...
Guest:They said, really?
Guest:Like, they're not going to make you edit stuff out?
Guest:Like, we're going to be able to shoot this?
Guest:You're going to be able to say this stuff on American TV?
Guest:They couldn't believe that this is something that could air.
Guest:And I said, no, yeah, the network is – they're paying for it.
Guest:Like, we can do this.
Guest:And they were really – yeah, they were really kind of proud to be part of it.
Guest:So they probably informed the thing a lot, right?
Guest:They were making choices.
Guest:Big time.
Guest:Yeah, and the director – this happened too when we went to Egypt.
Guest:Every time I go somewhere –
Guest:There's a good script, I would say, because it got us there.
Guest:But then we show up, and it's almost the opposite of... In America, I'll be shooting something, and it's like, okay, this is the vision of the thing.
Guest:If you're a writer on set, you could say something, but we're plowing ahead.
Guest:Egypt...
Guest:the guy who, you know, is handing out tea between takes would be like, hey, man, you know what you really should say?
Guest:Don't say that.
Guest:Say this.
Guest:And I'll take the note.
Guest:You know, because it's like, this is there.
Guest:You know, he's like, what would happen is this thing.
Guest:You go, oh, okay, okay, okay.
Marc:We're going to do that.
Marc:For the cousin stuff?
Guest:For your male cousin?
Guest:Yeah, yeah, exactly.
Guest:Like, literally, any of the actors there...
Guest:Fucking craft service, whoever, the boom guy, anyone can say anything to me.
Guest:And if it feels sound, I'm going to throw it in.
Guest:And that was the experience there with Palestinian crew.
Guest:They'd be like, she would say this, this would happen like this, that would go like that.
Guest:And then we just, yeah, of course, like best idea wins, you know, like, how do we not do that while we're here, you know?
Marc:I've been there twice in my life, years ago.
Marc:I find it uncomfortable.
Marc:But it's certainly, I think in a lot of ways, certainly for Arabs, a lot more uncomfortable than it was when I was a kid.
Marc:There was not a gate.
Marc:There was not, you know, East Jerusalem was not cut off.
Guest:There wasn't, yeah, an occupation.
Guest:Yeah, it's... And I think, like, you know, while we were there, yeah, I mean, look, a horrific human event happened.
Guest:This journalist, Shereen Abakhla, was killed.
Guest:Her murder is still, like...
Guest:It was clearly a murder done by the IDF, and it just kind of went away.
Guest:And it was something that people on our crew had worked with her.
Guest:And I think the thing that really was so emotional was seeing them have to process the regularity of how these things happen, where it was almost like this thing happens, they're super emotional, and then they're just like, all right, we got to just...
Guest:we got to keep rolling.
Guest:It was the kind of thing that here you'd be like, we got to stop.
Guest:And there they're like, well, if we stopped every time something like this happened, we'd never do anything, you know?
Guest:And so just seeing that was, you know, it was, it was, yeah, it's everything.
Guest:It's heartbreaking.
Guest:It's inspiring.
Guest:It's, it just makes you, you know, yeah, it makes you realize just how different life is, you know?
Guest:And I think part of what was, you know, really great about exploring that episode for me was stepping into the American perspective in a way.
Guest:Yeah, this weird entitled guy.
Guest:Exactly.
Guest:Exactly.
Marc:Where, like, you know, it is that moment where it's sort of like, how am I not getting special treatment?
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:And then something happens to make you realize, like, oh, shit.
Marc:You know, my life could be at risk.
Guest:Yes.
Guest:Yes.
Guest:And fuck, look how entitled I am.
Guest:And to me, it was, like, again, about, like, that inner dialogue of just, like, you know, my own feeling of guilt as...
Guest:an american muslim but actually american first right because it's like i grew up here and there are all these things that people go through right who aren't here and and and so you just always feel that oh man like i should be thinking about that more what could i do and you feel this like helplessness well what's funny in talking to you though is that you are not really the character because the character has to be this type of doofus
Marc:who doesn't have the self-awareness all the time to know how entitled and selfish he is.
Marc:Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Marc:Right?
Marc:But it's not really you.
Marc:You had to turn something off to sort of keep that guy going.
Guest:That's what makes it a comedy for me, right?
Guest:I think if your character is genuinely able to reconcile what's wrong with them, it kind of stops being a comedy.
Guest:I think the comedy is like... Most comedies that I really love, the character will do anything but fix themselves.
Marc:Right, but yeah.
Marc:But your attempts are funny because it's never...
Marc:Never practical.
Marc:It's always religious.
Marc:Yes.
Marc:Right.
Marc:You're never you know, you're not going to listen to your friends.
Marc:You're not going to take any practical advice.
Marc:You're not going to stop fucking.
Marc:You're not going to stop jerking off.
Marc:But when you do get filled up with some sort of shame, you turn to the idea of of religion.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Which becomes ridiculous fairly quickly.
Marc:Yeah.
Guest:Well, the way he does it.
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:And I think like, you know, a big part of the character is that idea of spiritual bypassing, which is like, you're going to put all these real tangible things you could do and just focus on, you know, the spiritual ideas.
Guest:And I think spiritual ideas are very real, but you have to marry them with real action.
Guest:And so a lot of people put all their bucket, like everything into that bucket of, okay, God helped me, but then they don't want to fix anything that they're doing.
Guest:And it's like, no, no, you...
Guest:Yeah, believe in God.
Guest:And I do believe in God.
Guest:And, you know, there's a lot of tangible stuff you need to be doing, you know, with the spiritual stuff, you know, and I think that's what, you know, the character never figures out.
Guest:That's something that I think in my real life, you know, yeah, I think I would be I would probably, you know, even talking about porn, talking about just.
Guest:you know, the, the environment that I feel like I grew up in.
Guest:I don't know that I would feel actually like a healthy person if I didn't have faith.
Guest:Like it is a huge part.
Marc:But I think you're countered in, in the series by, you know, functioning, you know, grownup men, you know, in your friends and Mo and the doctor.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Yeah.
Marc:Who, you know, who have reconciled their faith with their life.
Marc:Yes.
Marc:And have a certain amount of.
Marc:A code.
Marc:A code, but mature responsibility.
Marc:They're responsible men.
Marc:They're serious dudes.
Guest:Yeah, he's not.
Marc:Right.
Marc:Right.
Marc:And you don't know if it's going to, who's going to get them and smack them upside the head.
Marc:So I don't know what's going to happen in the rest of this third season.
Marc:So is this it?
Yeah.
Marc:is it for the show?
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:Um, it might be for now.
Guest:I, we're kind of trying to figure it out.
Guest:I mean, I think like it's a show that even when we started making it, I think after the first season, I realized what it took to make a season of TV and how much it takes out of you.
Marc:And, and I could, it's, it's,
Marc:It's all-consuming.
Guest:It's all-consuming.
Guest:You can't do anything else for a whole year or plus.
Guest:It's a whole calendar year plus.
Guest:There's no off time because you're always thinking about it.
Guest:And then you're editing it, and then you're writing it, and then you're shooting it, and then you're marketing it, and then you're back at doing it because you have to.
Guest:Otherwise, too much time will go by.
Guest:All that stuff.
Guest:So I remember the first season ended, and I kind of really took that internal look, and I was like, how many more can I do with this?
Guest:And I was like, I think I could do three or four seasons.
Guest:Right, that's enough.
Guest:But then I said...
Guest:I would want to put it down and then you know at some point
Guest:bring it back, you know, in a sense where it's like, what does this guy look like later?
Guest:You know, there's never going to be a time where watching a family trying to balance, you know, the temporal and the spiritual isn't like a valid conversation to have.
Guest:And I was always like, oh, we could put this thing down for four or five years and come back.
Guest:And he's like a full fledged dad, you know, and, and, and what does that story look like?
Guest:Yeah.
Guest:You know, obviously inspired by like, you know, Larry will take off years and then come back.
Guest:And, you know, there's all these shows come like a lot of shows take time.
Marc:But you know what, dude, you know, I, I,
Marc:after a certain point, like who wants them?
Marc:Who wants, who wants, who cares anymore?
Guest:I mean, look, Larry David, he has his formula.
Guest:It's always been his formula.
Guest:So it's like, he just keeps doing it and people like it.
Guest:It's almost kind of like a, you know, it's a standard.
Guest:It's like, it's like a slice of pizza that you love.
Guest:It doesn't change.
Guest:But for me, what it would be, it would be like,
Guest:and it's been every season, and it's why we play with the character, we play with tone, we play with all that, it would be, can I contribute something new?
Guest:Is there something pressing new that I could do with the show?
Guest:And so my... That's different than just doing it because you can.
Guest:Than doing it because you can, yeah.
Guest:And I think that's where even, like, with doing a fourth, like, that's where we've been at, too, where we're like, okay, is this the timing to contribute something new?
Guest:Would we kind of shift off?
Guest:That's kind of what I'm in the middle of trying to figure out.
Marc:So, but answer my question, as I have to finish this season, does he change?
Guest:I think that he gets stripped down in a way that he hasn't before and realizes what he's been running from.
Guest:We don't see the change, but we see, I think, the inflection point of something that could be real faith.
Guest:Again?
Guest:Okay.
Guest:For the first time, real faith.
Guest:It's not just like, you know, I think that's where we leave this season, where it's like,
Guest:he has this probably in the first time in the whole series he has this moment of real faith that's not performance that isn't just you know perception or him thinking doing what he thinks he should do he has this like genuine moment that that that i yeah was actually is actually my favorite scene of the whole show oh great well good i'm looking forward to it good talking to you man dude yeah thanks for having me
Marc:There you go.
Marc:That was fun.
Marc:All three seasons of Ramiya on Hulu, season three is eligible for the Emmys in all categories, and you can watch Mo on Netflix.
Marc:Are we making Emmy announcements?
Marc:Hey, my comedy special from bleak to dark is eligible for the Emmys in whatever category it's in.
Marc:I don't know, but it's eligible.
Marc:All right, hang out for a minute.
Marc:People.
Marc:Don't forget, we've got another Ask Mark Anything episode coming up.
Marc:So now's your chance.
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Marc:Right now?
Marc:For years, it was Anne Hathaway.
Marc:And that really hasn't gone away, to be honest with you.
Marc:I also, Mandy Moore had a profound impact on me.
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Marc:I've got to get rid of all this hair on my head, on my face.
Marc:I'm going to go finish shooting that thing in Canada this weekend, and then I will trim it back.
Marc:Here's some sort of, I guess, kind of a Skip James thing.
Bye.
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